"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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could the dj-theory be wrong in some spots

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well,

dj theory tells us when a girl exhibits lack of interest, that you next her and move on .

I got back from meeting her. Most of the guys, would have told me that you should just "stamp" out your emotions and make logical decisions. Luckily , I investigated a bit further before giving up with out more evidence.

well, this waitor for the past two weeks ( 3 meetings exhibited mixed signals, reading her BO made me to think shes interested but her actions like she wouldn't talk to me, but just keep moving on . )

well, the thing is she values her work ( waiteress very much ) , .. she needs the income ..and she can't afford to get fired. Turns out that if she talks to me, she can get in trouble. And that causes her other problems. so that is why she was avoiding me these past three weeks. I didn't know any of this, as she never told me...

In fact, I didn't even realize this, until 3 minute before I was going to leave, I thought in my head " i m never going to see her again, I am dumping her I can't do it with this low interest'. I grabbed her kinda when she was free and asked her flat out... " hey slisten, i am unsure of your actions, are you interested in me, or do you want me to leave you alone ? " ,. .. is it at that point that she told me could get in trouble and that other customers will be pissed off if she spends all her time with me. WEll there you have it folks.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I don't want to burst your bubble. But that doesn't really prove or disprove anything. It sounds to me that because she needs to keep her job, and is likely very good at it, she gave you a political answer.

If you wanted more solid evidence of your claim, you should ask her out, but not while she is working.
 
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