"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Could someone look over my V-day plans?

Brighty

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Its my first date with her (we're both 18 - so that rules out a few things) and I just want to make sure I've got my bases covered.

I'm picking her up at 4pm, she doesn't know where I'm taking her (She asked for a hint and I told her to guess.. she guessed wrong three times and now she's anticipating what the "surprise" is).

Problem is, I was going to take her ice skating but just yesterday they announced that the ice rink that's close by canceled public skating for tomorrow. So... I need a plan B.

The date needs to be creative - one of her guesses was dinner and a movie and I busted her balls for how uncreative the men who have taken her out before must have been if that was a legit guess from her - and it needs to be something memorable. I was thinking a walk through a park or something, weather permitting (but it probably won't permit considering the unpredictable weather here).

Also, I'm wondering if I should encompass dinner as well into the mix. Then again, I don't want to shell out that much money on this girl for our first date.

Anyway, any advice here is much appreciated, considering I'll need to have a game plan in less than 12 hours.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Badmannaz

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entering the 4th quarter....
1.movies....
2.cook her dinner
3. a walk in the park

or do something original just make sure u looked like you didnt try that hard...and have fun and laugh...and all that other great sh*t....its only da first date...dont look for anything but if she wants to kiss or f*ck i guess look for the signs!! lmao!
 

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Maybe you could find a comedy play (like a spoof play.) These are always real fun dates (and much better than movies.)

See if there are any symphonies or aggressive contemporary dance shows playing. Again these usually turn out to be fun dates.
 

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Teflon_Mcgee said:
Maybe you could find a comedy play (like a spoof play.) These are always real fun dates (and much better than movies.)

See if there are any symphonies or aggressive contemporary dance shows playing. Again these usually turn out to be fun dates.

You know, I think that would be kind of interesting. I rummaged through the paper today and I came across two new options:

1. There's a public art showing today at 5 where a little part of town is completely closed off and people just walk through and go into the different art galleries and stuff. It's original and its kind of like going to a mall - there's always gonna be stuff to talk about.

2. We could go rock climbing, which would be a lot of fun for me but I'm not sure about her.

But let me check if there's a show or something playing. Although I'm leaning towards the art gallery.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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