"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Could someone look over my V-day plans?

Brighty

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Its my first date with her (we're both 18 - so that rules out a few things) and I just want to make sure I've got my bases covered.

I'm picking her up at 4pm, she doesn't know where I'm taking her (She asked for a hint and I told her to guess.. she guessed wrong three times and now she's anticipating what the "surprise" is).

Problem is, I was going to take her ice skating but just yesterday they announced that the ice rink that's close by canceled public skating for tomorrow. So... I need a plan B.

The date needs to be creative - one of her guesses was dinner and a movie and I busted her balls for how uncreative the men who have taken her out before must have been if that was a legit guess from her - and it needs to be something memorable. I was thinking a walk through a park or something, weather permitting (but it probably won't permit considering the unpredictable weather here).

Also, I'm wondering if I should encompass dinner as well into the mix. Then again, I don't want to shell out that much money on this girl for our first date.

Anyway, any advice here is much appreciated, considering I'll need to have a game plan in less than 12 hours.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Badmannaz

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entering the 4th quarter....
1.movies....
2.cook her dinner
3. a walk in the park

or do something original just make sure u looked like you didnt try that hard...and have fun and laugh...and all that other great sh*t....its only da first date...dont look for anything but if she wants to kiss or f*ck i guess look for the signs!! lmao!
 

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Maybe you could find a comedy play (like a spoof play.) These are always real fun dates (and much better than movies.)

See if there are any symphonies or aggressive contemporary dance shows playing. Again these usually turn out to be fun dates.
 

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Teflon_Mcgee said:
Maybe you could find a comedy play (like a spoof play.) These are always real fun dates (and much better than movies.)

See if there are any symphonies or aggressive contemporary dance shows playing. Again these usually turn out to be fun dates.

You know, I think that would be kind of interesting. I rummaged through the paper today and I came across two new options:

1. There's a public art showing today at 5 where a little part of town is completely closed off and people just walk through and go into the different art galleries and stuff. It's original and its kind of like going to a mall - there's always gonna be stuff to talk about.

2. We could go rock climbing, which would be a lot of fun for me but I'm not sure about her.

But let me check if there's a show or something playing. Although I'm leaning towards the art gallery.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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