"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Could some one please tell me . .

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This is not a life threatening issue . . . But why o why, when you feel that inspite of an awkward situation, you feel you can be friends with a woman, but she choses to ignore you and tear up your phone number et'c et'c . .:kick:

Its not a major issue, but why?????Is it not easier to exchange salutations once in a while in the spirit of "no hard feelings" rather than just build a wall, and completely snub someone . . .:down:

that is the only part where I have completely failed to understande females??? . . .

There's no specific example, as they will be too booring, but I am curious as a glimpse to this dark side of the female psyche!

Answers on a postcard!:up:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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WRX_is_like_SEX said:
This is not a life threatening issue . . . But why o why, when you feel that inspite of an awkward situation, you feel you can be friends with a woman, but she choses to ignore you and tear up your phone number et'c...

...that is the only part where I have completely failed to understande females???
This isn't a female trait - both men and women do it. Trying to understand a female is a waste of time so stop with that line of thinking. They think emotionally - it doesn't make logical sense.

What more do you need to know? Do you want closure? Do you want her to explain what you did wrong? Do you want to know what trait she is looking for in a man and what things you can change so she will like you? News for you - ITS NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN.

She doesn't like you, doesn't want to spend time with you and thats all you need to know.
 

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yep, men and women do it and usually it's to protect themselves.

it's in all the original pick up manual "The Art of Love" by Ovid (roman)... in the section called "cures for love", you have to get yourself AWAY from the other person. you have to separate yourself and physically remove yourself from their presence if at all possible.

the fact that you don't understand this means that you've never had your heart broken - where you don't want it to end but she ends it.

in such a case, you will INSTANTLY see the wisdom of just severing all ties and make yourself scarce.

you can't make a nightmare (or love) fade by constantly reliving it.

actually, it's easy as fvck to understand. dontcha think?

delta
 

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From my experience to completely forget someone (as in not care not amnesia kind of forget) it takes 5 days of not seeing/talking to the girl and messing around with 2-3 girls in that timeframe.After that you'll see you couldn't care less about what happened to her and only remember the good times you had together.
 

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Thanks for the replies lads . . .:up:


I hear what your saying, and agree with most of it . . .No . .I am not necessarily talking about love or closure hear . . But I just think the snub, or the sulk in a very absolutist and maximalist measure to take . . .

Its like a policeman giving speeding tickets and having court summons issued for speeding 1 mph over the speed limit . . .Reasonable?:mad:

Its just from personal experience, I find snubbing (especially a girl) could snow ball into a very difficult situation which can be avoided . . .

Hert break you tell me . .These are once in a millenium events, and i always prefer to speak to a girl and be speaking terms after, rather than being mean . . .

I guess its called being assertive . .
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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but she choses to ignore you and tear up your phone number et'c et'c .


Let me as ask you this, did you do something to upset her to that point? Did you get caught banging her sister or something?

Either way, she's trying to be 'hurtful' by tearing up your number and ignoring you, and from what i can see, it's working. You need to forget this girl and the whole situation, drop it for good.
 

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OK . .Just don't hit me with your handbag!:flowers:

I have done nothing, but there are certain situations that simply reach an impasse and become untenable . .

This was just a general question, but i see i have opened a whole can of worms here!
 
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