"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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could she be branch swinging? or am i kidding myself?

big weezy

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ok so i got flamed for these 2 threads: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=204736 http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=204732

i've been talking to this chick over whatsapp the past few days, trying to be careful not to be too available.. i almost feel im in the comfort connection building phase with her (without intentionally doing so), and she seems to enjoy talking to me (could just be cos she likes the attention - quite possibly) and we're finding out we have more and more in common and similarities.. i tried to make sure i didn't initiate the convo's too much. i mentioned she should go to so n so place with her bf... and she becomes quite straight with me almost doesn't wanna talk about him and just focus on us.. even at times she qualifies herself to me when i say im looking for x y z in a girl.. she qualifies herself saying she's x and y.

will i not know if she's branch swinging till i ask her out proper? she thinks i'm still seeing this girl and asks random questions about it to test me.. but i already mentioned to her that i think it's going to end when she moves away (which is soon) i feel i should suggest a meet up with her to really test the water as i'm concerned i'm already an orbiter by not meeting up with her.. do i really need to suggest to meet up or could she (real IOI)?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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i was saying stuff like i want a girl who's caring, good with money, not selfish and can cook. i didn't indicate her specifically but she answered with 'blah blah something.. but i cant cook.. too lazy for that sort of thing.'

i never actually was qualifying her but she turned it into a qualification and disqualified herself.. this is an IOD?
 
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