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Could it be due to Low Testosterone?

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I was pondering about this.

Some guys are aloof, some guys are emotional.

Some guys take control of their emotions easily, some guys find it near impossible, even though they are taught and advised by experts (They just cannot take it in! It may be just inbuilt and programmed)

During a breakup, some guys break free easily, some guys find it impossible
And yes, The difference between Pu$$y guys whom cling on to the past and the "true strong man" whom put it down and not look back again

Could it be due to Low Testosterone, that's causing guys behaving the above i've mentioned?

do guys with low Testosterone tend to be more emotional, or harder to control their emotions as compared to guys with higher testosterone?
 
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I am confused by your question.
What are you asking ?
 

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Let me rephrase, do guys with low Testosterone tend to be more emotional, or harder to control their emotions as compared to guys with higher testosterone?

Pardon me for my poor english
 

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Ah, this is ambiguous.

Guys with extra testosterone don't cry when they are emotionally hurt. They punch walls and break their own knuckles. Both ways are too emotional. Neither way is dignified.
 

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Erm. I need to rephrase again. haha. What i mean is. do guys with low Testosterone tend to be more emotional (Negative, depressed emotions), or harder to control their emotions as compared to guys with higher testosterone
 

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It is easier to control their emotions, I think.

Look up "eunuchs". They are described as LESS emotional.

I don't think a severe reaction to a break up means lack of testosterone. I've known otherwise aggressive, macho guys who totally fall apart when they don't have the maturity to handle a break up.
 

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its possible that testosterone levels have a role to play.

but women have much lower testosterone levels than men and there are plenty of women who are less emotional than some men.

so i think a lot of it has to do with simply how you perceive the situation.

some people make lemonaide out of lemons and others squeeze the lemons and let the juice drip into their eyes.
 

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To be honest, I've just started taking Testosterone Supplements (Quite costly). To test out my behavior and how I control my emotions.

Anyway, that supplement is also for working out. So it should be a plus plus to me.
 

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joekerr31 said:
its possible that testosterone levels have a role to play.

but women have much lower testosterone levels than men and there are plenty of women who are less emotional than some men.

so i think a lot of it has to do with simply how you perceive the situation.

some people make lemonaide out of lemons and others squeeze the lemons and let the juice drip into their eyes.
It is maybe because in general, women have more options than men these days. Thus they tend to move on faster since that's always another chump to fill her void after a breakup.
 

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There are studies that show that low Testosterone levels in men correlate with depression, and lack of drive and ambition, and especially confidence.
 

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DjVelvet said:
It is maybe because in general, women have more options than men these days. Thus they tend to move on faster since that's always another chump to fill her void after a breakup.

hehe, this can't be true. i know its commonly stated, but the population is pretty even at 50% male 50% female.

women can't have that many options more than men. :)
 

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Interceptor said:
There are studies that show that low Testosterone levels in men correlate with depression, and lack of drive and ambition, and especially confidence.
so kind of the equivalent of being around your woman when she's on the rag?
 

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I would think that high testosterone would lead to more stereotypically "male" emotions.

Remember that emotions don't just mean crying and the such... we all like to say that women are emotional and men are logical, but that's just crap. Women just have the emotions that men like to put down.

War is one of the most illogical things on earth, and is propogated almost entirely by men who are p.o.'d at their neighbours.
 
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