Could a dude be so numb to dating that he couldn't develop feelings for another lady?

[RickTheToad]

A dude was talking to me at the bar and seemed to just go through the ladies every few months or so. He said I am just done with them emotionally. I cannot seem to build a bond or feelings for or with them aside from lust. I said, what are you looking for? He ultimately admitted he'd prefer a LTR (early 40's), but he just allow himself to build a bond. I'm guessing he's been hurt too many times before he's protecting himself or something. He enjoys them, but it's a means to an end. I suggested he come to the forum here, so we'll see. He just feels empty inside it seems.

 

[kbbroiler1971]

Okay here is my perspective and I'm almost 50. I was telling this to another guy the other day that I don't get crushes anymore. I see attractive women but honestly, their faces mean nothing to me. Then I went on to add that the porn that really gets me hot on PornHub was the ones that show the women with no face like with NoFaceGirl on there. I just don't make connections anymore with women on a like basis. I just see them as a hole and that's it. That's why I get a lot of attention from women but for me, I'm to busy with work and my business to even bother. I have better things going on and women bring too much BS to the table. It doesn't mean I quit women but I just don't chase them. If something happens, it happens but never getting a crush and definitely never getting oneitis over them. Me? Never married and no kids so I'm not sure what situation the guy at the bar has gone through.

 

[Julian]

This is simple desensitization. Over exposure in an overly stimulating sexualized world. Of course the honey at the perfume store isnt going to get your juices flowing because she actually takes effort and who wants that when you can escape to porn or get a fleshlight or hooker or whatever.

Also just knowing the miles of cokk these chicks have ridden is in itself a turn off biologically to us males. Who wants to take a drink of the water after 30 other peoples backwash. These btches dont realize that and think we are supposed to pairbond with them when these relationships come with expiration dates period.

 

[RickTheToad]

Amazing what the digital world has done to relations between dudes and ladies.

 

[backseatjuan]

I'm guessing he's gay. I had this happen to me, I was at a bar and this dude came and sat beside me, just nervous and sht. Then I saw him visit my page on OLD, it said gay in his profile and had gay pics of him.

 

[user43770]

I'm guessing he's gay. I had this happen to me, I was at a bar and this dude came and sat beside me, just nervous and sht. Then I saw him visit my page on OLD, it said gay in his profile and had gay pics of him.

Did you just wake up in a barn? Not related to the original question, just asking.

 

[user43770]

I'm guessing he's gay. I had this happen to me, I was at a bar and this dude came and sat beside me, just nervous and sht. Then I saw him visit my page on OLD, it said gay in his profile and had gay pics of him.

Thought I might of recognized you from a page full of homos that I frequent

 

[RickTheToad]

I'm guessing he's gay. I had this happen to me, I was at a bar and this dude came and sat beside me, just nervous and sht. Then I saw him visit my page on OLD, it said gay in his profile and had gay pics of him.

So you came out as a gay man in a bar when you confessed this to another dude? Umm, huh?

 

[backseatjuan]

So you came out as a gay man in a bar when you confessed this to another dude? Umm, huh?

I just said dude that sat at the bar and had a chat with me turned out to be gay. I'm saying actually that the guy you had a chat with is probably gay.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Can totally relate with the guy, currently living a soft form of MGTOW.

I flirt with girl and have casual sex when demands are reasonable but nothing more than that, if a girl call me 10 minutes to cancel a date it really makes no difference unless its a booty call and Im horny.

Hard to say if its only the ability to bond to be lacking or its being fed up of dealing with someone that is culturally and mentally too different from us.

One thing I can tell you for sure is that when I was 18 I was almost getting a heart attack if a friend of mine said he saw the girl I liked with someone else at the bar while nowadays I could see one of my date making out with a guy in front of me and being comfortable to proceed with my schedule.

 

[sangheilios]

I think something like this would be a fairly normal emotional response to getting burnt and hurt by women repeatedly.

Speaking for myself, in recent years I haven't had a single positive experience with the opposite sex. I've met a ton of women that just strung me along, used me, wasted my time and all that for their own pleasure and seeing me as nothing more than a means to gain attention or who knows what. At first I'd feel it was just bad luck, but when it happens over and over and over of course you reach a point where logic takes over and says "why the hell do I even bother?". From there you just go your own way and don't even waste your time, as if something painful happens over and over you don't keep engaging with it lol.

Having bad experiences is not only normal but important, as this is what allows one to grow and learn. However, with all of that aside there also need to be good experiences as well to balance this all out.

 

[Poonani Maker]

Amazing what the digital world has done to relations between dudes and ladies.

yeah, they are STUCK to the phone, more bawdy are the ladies even freshmen sophomores in college, just wake up no shower go out walk the area of their off-campus living get hit up probably 20 or more times in a day. When the weather's good, they are in Freeeeee mode, nothin but smiles. They're all about Feeling in the moment. There will be snow in a few months though.