Cougar Number Close. Things Looking Good

[DJnoob]

So as I have posted before
I have asked total of 2 cougars within last 5 months (with little experience in how to ask em out the right way..wasn't too confident of how the process works)

So, cougar #3
Finally, 3 days ago, I saw this coug that happens to be my type and I finally got it right.
She's a dealer at my local casino. I went up to her table and did a little bit of small talk. I asked a simple question and she gave long replies.

After 3 mins of convo I said:
Me: So, watcha doing next thusday at 8 pm. Are you free? yes no? (i finally see this question like 101010101 like in the matrix..because before i would ask em out like "hey we should hang out" etc etc..wishy washy questions and in return wishy washy type responses. . I see it now guys, thanks!!! I was blind but now I see.. I really wanted her to judge me right there and then cuz i'm tired of the wish washyness which added fuel to the fire...)

Coug: I have work next thursday..hmm I'll let yo know (i paused for a little because she said she'll let me know..but didn't counter offer??!!!? So I still pursued..)

Me: Ok, lets exchange numbers, whats the first 3
Coug: ***.**** *****
Me: i made her repeat this like 2 more times cuz i tried to just memorize it but it was hard as time was running out before her boss gets back and I didnt want to bust out a pen or phone..but i had no choice but to bust out my phone and turn my back from her as i made her repeat her number again for the 4th time. lol because she was saying it soo fast.

Next day:
To make this short. We exchange text messages back and forth about 6 lines worth. I kept it borderline rated pg-13 to rated R texting. She sent tons of emoticons and !! marks.

Fast forward this morning,
Coug: she greets me with "good morning sunshine" and "where I was last night"

Then sends me photo of her in her work clothes in bathroom from last night. ( I haven't replied yet)

What would you do from here on to make this smooth as possible?
A. Just schedule a meeting time?
B. Flirt a little bit more through text then schedule time?

I am siding with A.

Thanks guys.

 

[nismo-4]

Go with A. If she doesn't show, just delete her and move on. You shouldn't have any room in your life for game-playing women.

The ones who play games and make it difficult early on are those who should be thrown out.

Of course second place with women is for losers and betas.

 

[marmel75]

This doesnt mean anything...you'll know her true interest level if she actually meets you out. Ask her what her schedule is like and set up a date. If she flakes then dump her number.

If relax a little with the texts...I have had plenty of times where we both had things at an R to X level and never met up...unless you know what you are doing with this you have a high percentage to ruin your chance of meeting her. Save that talk for in person.

 

[DJnoob]

alright, i really have been busy for past 2 weeks and i haven't messaged her since. So i walk in the poker room where i normally play and where she works, played for 30 mins then lefts. I did see her but she wasn't looking at me at the time.

**By the way, she lives 1 hour away**

i left around 8pm

I receive text from her around 9:43pm
sexy cougar: "You're still alive!?!"

I haven't replied since and its morning time now. Since I didn't want to reply late at night to turn that convo into a senseless text session filled with emoji bs.
So question is ( i have no experience with cougars..i just know they dont play games.)
Do I setup date like

A: "Lets have a get together next week around 9pm your house/my house?
B "Lets go for drinks at 9pm at this bar (between her place and my place)
C: "Drinks at this location near your place"

I mean, what's most effective way of planning for this situation since it will be my first time?

tnxxx

 

[DJnoob]

So i just texted her (B)

Cougar: You're still alive!?! (12 hours ago)
"Hey lisa, Been super super busy!, Lets meet up next thursday 8-9pm for drinks at Moe's in Springnfield?"

 

[Murk]

Nice, I've heard great things about Moe's.

Stop leaving it so long to reply, if she can't do Thursday 8/9 and she doesn't counter, say "well when suits you?" - then you can either lock down a date or just keep it moving if she act's flakey.

 

[DJnoob]

results are in:

(FYI she initiated text couple times btw after i sent her first text)

**5 to 10 minute gap in between texts**
Asian cougar: I can't I have work thursday
Asian cougar: I don't drink, but i do drugs! =D just joking =D
Me: ok, np
Me: oh, you don't drink water?hehe. Perhaps some other time. Ok, have a great rest of the week!
Asian cougar: I don't drink liquor. Why you so busy? what do you do?
Me: boring internet stuff
Asian cougar: Dating apps?
Me: No
Asian cougar: hahaha
Me: When u are free, let me know and go from there. (i hate using "WE" and really try to reduce my sentences)

-----THE END ----

My Thoughts
1. No counter (but i've had this happen 10 years ago where she countered couple days later) but, i was expecting a counter offer within the hour.. anyway this is my first texting game after 8 years? Literally the first one. lol pathetic i know. I had to climb myself out of my own hell..lose weight, uniquely dress nice, get my mind right.. mature alot..and become more confident a thousand fold. I know i look good now i get alot of looks from women and attention. But sometimes you wonder..all that hardwork for a "no counter within the hour?". Which takes me back to "in the end, it doesn't really matter" But i digress..

2. She kept my number after 2 weeks of no messaging and initiated it.
3. No liquor? soo.. what then in future dates? lol..
4. No more texting until a counter offer.

 

[DJnoob]

Nice, I've heard great things about Moe's.

Stop leaving it so long to reply, if she can't do Thursday 8/9 and she doesn't counter, say "well when suits you?" - then you can either lock down a date or just keep it moving if she act's flakey.

she initiated texts couple of times and her replies were longer so i thought id reward her with couple of complete sentences.

 

[Murk]

You failed, I told you to drop "well when suits you?" literally stick it on her and you know whether to waste time. This wishy washy text game will get you nowhere. Not when you are free let me know, "WHEN ARE YOU FREE?"

 

[DJnoob]

the other guys on youtube said leave the ball on her court. Corey wayne said something similar to my response

"Let me know when you are free" type reply

 

[DJnoob]

but, you might be right.

But i feel like its gona boil down to the same thing and thats her interest level. She just needs to counter offer.

BTW, the texting was already done before you replied to my posts

 

[Murk]

Oh fvck that man you're looking to smash, ask when she's free you already waited 2 weeks to text, already saw her at the casino and ignored her, trust me, she's not thinking you're some thirsty guy, probably why she asked about dating apps. You have enough frame here to outright ask her. Every situation is different, Corey Wayne is not going by the situation you've told us about he is giving a blanket overview. People in real life said I should charge money on how to game especially through text and OLD, trust me my advice is solid on this.

Edit: Yes - you're gonna find out her interest level real quick when you ask WHEN she is free to meet you. Why waste even more time?

 

[DJnoob]

Theres not many topics on how to smash asian cougars and how the typical routine goes. Nor do i have the data, numbers and behavioral patterns in my head. Not sure if its same as asking out 20 and 30 year olds.

 

[Murk]

They have less options. It’s easier.

 

[DJnoob]

so, lol, i just got a reply just now, about 8 hours after this post

8:52 pm pst
asian cougar: Whats your typical day off? mine, tuesday and wednesday

 

[DJnoob]

just happy to hear the counter offer an the months of hard work working out paying off finally

 

[DJnoob]

sooo, if she doesnt drink, what now? just, go out for coffee?

 

[marmel75]

just happy to hear the counter offer an the months of hard work working out paying off finally

Dude you are putting way way too much importance on this one woman. You need to be working on getting other numbers and other women not obsessing over her.

 

[DJnoob]

your text game needs work my guy

too many straight answers, not enough playfulness, no flirting, no qualifying her etc

shes giving you so much to work with to just be bland.

watch out for the asians tho, theyre big on guys who have well paying jobs and being pampered. not to discourage you or anything but i doubt you get this lay unless youre not averse to the more machiavellian ways of the game

seriously, if you just wanna bang this broad, signal a well paying job and being commitment oriented. might take a few dates and making a few promises you cant keep, but you'll get the lay.

or just use her as a practice girl for your game

just do whatever you want, dont listen to me. im crazy

I am gona use her as practice, as base/ foundation