"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Cool to just stop contact?

Forty0ztoFreedom

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I don't mean for playing games. I'm just sick of flaky girls, past oneitus's, etc.

It feels sooooo uncool to just not get back to someone, but I guess thats the inner-AFC talking.

A past oneitus from a few months ago called last Friday, then Sunday. I picked up neither calls. Not for a no-contact reason, I just honestly did not want to talk to her. I'm sick of dealing with that b*ll****. I feel like I should get back to these people, or even initiate with others who haven't contacted me . . you know, to be a 'stand-up guy' or whatever. Afterall, if it was a good friend, I would have for sure gotten back to them.

I just have the urge to start fresh, but I don't want to burn bridges or the possibility of getting with these people down the line.

There's even a girl I've hung out with a couple times, with nothing negative about it, who I have no desire to contact.

Can this damage future possibilities with these people?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Tiguere

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No in fact it will improve opportunities. You become scarce your value goes up. But only if you if you keep expanding your social network.
 

WORKEROUTER

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I use to feel like you too but the fact is that take a lesson from the women out there..they do this to guys ALL THE TIME. Who gives a f*ck about not contacting them if you don't feel like talking or texting then don't do it until you do!
 
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