"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Convo..needs analyzing, please

sandman6991

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Well guys...I'm gaming this chick I met on facebook a while ago...last time we talked, I did really well...I asked her to hang out sometime next week (which was last week) and she said she had work all week...but maybe if she got off early. I then number closed her...but didn't call or text all week. This is the next time talking to her, an AIM convo tonight...I need your opinions please, on how I'm doing, how interested she is, what I can do better...and if you guys think I can call tomorrow and successfully get a date for next week

Me: hey!
Her: hey
Me: guess what! i was at the gym today...and i saw a girl that looked JUST like you
Me: do you have a twin or something i should know about?
Her: haha no...not that I know of
Her: what gym do you go to?
Me: i go to apex fitness center...it's on sevierville road
Her: yea...I didn't work out today and I go to the rush anyway...so it definately wasn't me lol
Her: have you even seen me in person? lol
Me: nope..i havent...i think my idea of you is close though
Me: haha
Her: I can't remember her name but there is a girl at your school that my friend thinks we look a like
Her: maybe it was her lol
Me: haha..it could have been! what a relief though, you know...i can handle one of you...but if there was TWO? i was about to call nasa to your house and send you to the moon ;)
Her: haha...i don't think I could even handle two of me..
Me: oh...by the way
Me: i passed a fuddruckers today...not the same thing, i know...but close enough, huh?
Her: so there is a fuddruckers and a fudpuckers?
Me: yup! it's in *my town*...across from best buy
Me: i was hoping they had a rhyme i could teach you
Her: haha..too bad
(Me: yeah...think i can ever make it up to you? haha
Her: hmm...i don't think so...
Her: jk
Me: well shoot...now im not going to be able to sleep this whole week
Me: look at what you've done ;)
Her: i guess i'll just have to live with a guilty conscience
Me: well we cant have that...
Me: you never told me where you work?
Her: sonic....ugh
Her: but its a paycheck
Me: oh really?
Me: i was at sonic last week
Me: i would come visit you...but i dont tip
Me: haha
Her: ppl that work there don't like ppl like you...just to let you know haha
Her: and I was at the beach last week so i wouldn't have been there anyway lol
Me: haha...dont worry...you guys still get your tips
Me: i have my friends do it
Me: hold on...how much of a tip do you guys want
Her: as much as someone is willing to give...
Her: I don't get to take food out that much yet since i'm new so i dont really know
Me: well...so you know...i tip at the drive-thru too
Me: one time i dropped a benjamin on someone just so they'd know i was a high-roller
Her: haha nice...
Her: people sometimes tip me at the drive thru which is nice
Her: i came home with 12 extra dollars today and I didn't take any orders to cars
Her: it was all just ppl at the drive thru
Me: dang! got any job openings there?
Me: that's not bad for standing there all day
Me: haha
Her: I know..so hopefully I'll get some decent extra money when I actually take stuff to cars
Me: when do you get THAT promotion?
Her: um..I don't really know..
Her: they let me when we arent busy..so I think it should be soon
Her: its only my second week working
Me: woah! you're climbing the job latter awful quick...before long you'll own the joint ;)
Her: haha definatly not...some of those ppl have worked there like 7 or 8 years...
Her: count me out for that...
Me: are you serious?
Her: yep...
Me: what are they still doing?
Her: same thing everybody else does
Me: not even special pins or nametags?
Me: talk about getting the shaft!
Her: hahaha
Her: I get my first paycheck on thursday and hopefully it will make it worth it
Me: do you know how much you're gonna be makin yet?
Me: im not too big on surprises like that...
Her: its 515 an hour...which kind of suck...
Her: but I could look how many hours I worked and figure it out...I just havent looked
Me: that's not too bad...it's better than manual labor or something
Her: agreed
Me: i applied over at target
Me: they must not have gotten my application
Me: you know...that stuff gets lost all the time
Her: haha
Me: are you working next week too?
Her: yep
Me: all week?
Her: yep...but i'll have a day or two off
Her: i just dont know which ones yet
Her: but i'm tired..I'll ttyl! goodnight
Me: night!
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Mizzikiel

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i like how you think we have time to analyze a wall of text to tell you if a girl likes you or not. Gotta learn to do it for yourself man, and besides, as far as im concerned, msn convos mean nothing, you can't see emotion or anything. You can't tell what someone means just from reading it, I forgot the exact numbers, but something like 85% of talking is non-verbal. So without first of all knowing this girl and secondly actually seeing her, I am, as im sure many others are, un-able to properly analyze this

Edit: This isn't meant to sound like me being an as$hole, upon re-reading this I realized I did sound like one. I'm just trying to say that DJs cant always be there to consult with, so you have to be able to identify for yourself.
 

mpimpin

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It's over analyzing like this that prevents any action. Congrats on being able to hold an IM conversation ...:rolleyes:
the only advice you need is stop analyzing and just go for it
 

dre007

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true..all of this was pretty much fluff, u need to try and get some IOIs from her, so step up ur game and see if u get some
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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sandman6991

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Sorry guys!

I'm putting too much thought into it...just wanting to make sure I wasn't doing anything blatantly wrong

It's time to make a move...
 
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