"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Converting to day 2's, and 3s and 4s

The Inside Man

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Whats up guys..

I am in a town where most people are under 25 and partying on the weekend is the norm for almost everyone. Not the typical situation I am used to in the big city..

Wanted to hear some of your advice.. I've been meeting, dancing with, and sometimes making out with girls I meet. Except the first time that's happened, they have all have been hot, in my opinion. The first one was just cute, but that got the ball rolling and my confidence up.

My challenge seems to be converting from a fun night of drinking (alot) and dancing, to a sober day 2 or STR. I am also in a college town and most of the women I am meeting are 5 years younger than me or more.

I don't follow any set rules for callback, just when I have something going on I ask them to join ( like a intramural sports practice during the week). Could be the next day or later on in the week.

So you guys think I should be waiting longer to call them, later on in the week when I am out partying ? Or should I keep trying to get day 2s for a sober action date.

Especially in a town where everyone is drunk all weekend, it seems like two different worlds hanging out sober and hanging out partying. How can I bridge the gap with some of these hotties I've been meeting? My age so far has been a plus and the attention from girls when we're out is great. But I want some of that during the week too.

I've been doing this for a while now and can tell signs of interest, I've had girls take me out to the dance floor several times, as well as the EC and obviously the making out and close grinding with only me.. So they appear to have high IL the night we meet.

Open to suggestions.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The Inside Man

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I think the lack of responses and 85 views says it all. I have been getting some good advice from the flaking thread though, anyone who's having similar issues should check it out.
 

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I know what you mean. Women do have a different personality when they're drunk. They become more honest with their emotions, they don't test you, and they don't play their stupid mind games.

Can't offer any suggestions, though. Lately, I've been preferring them a little tipsy but not too drunk. Just enough to let her be more herself.
 

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My advice with college chicks is to not expect much continuity out of them. Especially if you are meeting them partying---young girls are creatures of the present and you would be best served pushing the envelope as far as you can that night. You'll be MUCH more likely for follow-up hang-outs if you have already laid them.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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