Conversing with shy women

[SoonToBeDJ]

What's up guys. I need some suggestions from your experiences on speaking with shy women. I'll give you guys some details on my situation right now.

I've been seeing this new chick for a couple weeks now. The first time we went out she was pretty quiet. I carried the conversation most of the time. I know that's not a good idea, but I had no choice. That sometimes indicates a low interest level, but we went out again. Second date was better, but still not normal. I use as many open-ended questions as possible, but I still get short answers. We've actually gone out a couple more times which confirms interest and I'm up to the challenge to try to get her to open up, but it's proving to be more difficult than I imagined. I thought she wouldn't be shy by this time.

So I need some advice on how to get her out of this shell. I don't think she has a problem interacting with people either because she has friends.

Thanks

 

[Ice882]

yeah i actually have the same question. Bump.

 

[thedude4242]

I have talked to woman where all you get is a high or im good. these girls are super shy and dont talk to anyone but only with a few words. or maybe their stupit I dont know but conversation is hard with them.

 

[DonGorgon]

Women are not shy .. ether you make them comfortable or you dont..

"im shy.." = you dont make me feel comfotable you probably will not F me ever.

 

[ENIGMA16]

Women are not shy .. ether you make them comfortable or you dont..

"im shy.." = you dont make me feel comfotable you probably will not F me ever.

I don't necessarily agree with this. There is such a thing as a shy person, and it's not because you don't make them comfortable but because they're not comfortable in general, either in new situations or with new people or whatever. It's not always you specifically, and with most shy girls I don't think it is at all.

Shy girls are scared, and the best weapon against fear is humor. Say or do something completely ridiculous and unexpected to make her laugh. Most shy girls are also super outgoing once you get to know them because they have it bottled up inside, so you just have to break through that shell and once you're through you're good.

 

[DonGorgon]

I don't necessarily agree with this. There is such a thing as a shy person, and it's not because you don't make them comfortable but because they're not comfortable in general, either in new situations or with new people or whatever. It's not always you specifically, and with most shy girls I don't think it is at all.

Shy girls are scared, and the best weapon against fear is humor. Say or do something completely ridiculous and unexpected to make her laugh. Most shy girls are also super outgoing once you get to know them because they have it bottled up inside, so you just have to break through that shell and once you're through you're good.

yeh you are right... im in a bad mood not cause i did not F this HB10 that came to my houselast night.. wwwaaa

 

[SoonToBeDJ]

Women are not shy .. ether you make them comfortable or you dont..

"im shy.." = you dont make me feel comfotable you probably will not F me ever.

Can't say I didn't expect this response, but not necessarily true as I've made progress in this department.

As I've said she's improved from the first date, but still not as talkative as the norm. Maybe that's just the way she is, but was curious to hear of others experience with this type of women.

 

[SoonToBeDJ]

I don't necessarily agree with this. There is such a thing as a shy person, and it's not because you don't make them comfortable but because they're not comfortable in general, either in new situations or with new people or whatever. It's not always you specifically, and with most shy girls I don't think it is at all.

Shy girls are scared, and the best weapon against fear is humor. Say or do something completely ridiculous and unexpected to make her laugh. Most shy girls are also super outgoing once you get to know them because they have it bottled up inside, so you just have to break through that shell and once you're through you're good.

I agree, making her laugh has helped. Many people are like that. They are quiet when meeting new people, but once they get to know you they open up.

 

[Bobby Rio]

Have a couple drinks with her. I used to be really shy... and couldn't open up to someone without a few drinks. Once i opened up once... I felt comfortable going forward.

The other option is to find something she really likes talking about. We all have that one thing... find it.

And let a little bit of your "cool vulnerablity" show through. Shy people are often afraid of extroverts and like to see that extroverts have a human side too...