"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What's up guys. I need some suggestions from your experiences on speaking with shy women. I'll give you guys some details on my situation right now.

I've been seeing this new chick for a couple weeks now. The first time we went out she was pretty quiet. I carried the conversation most of the time. I know that's not a good idea, but I had no choice. That sometimes indicates a low interest level, but we went out again. Second date was better, but still not normal. I use as many open-ended questions as possible, but I still get short answers. We've actually gone out a couple more times which confirms interest and I'm up to the challenge to try to get her to open up, but it's proving to be more difficult than I imagined. I thought she wouldn't be shy by this time.

So I need some advice on how to get her out of this shell. I don't think she has a problem interacting with people either because she has friends.

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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yeah i actually have the same question. Bump.
 
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I have talked to woman where all you get is a high or im good. these girls are super shy and dont talk to anyone but only with a few words. or maybe their stupit I dont know but conversation is hard with them.
 
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DonGorgon said:
Women are not shy .. ether you make them comfortable or you dont..

"im shy.." = you dont make me feel comfotable you probably will not F me ever.
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I don't necessarily agree with this. There is such a thing as a shy person, and it's not because you don't make them comfortable but because they're not comfortable in general, either in new situations or with new people or whatever. It's not always you specifically, and with most shy girls I don't think it is at all.

Shy girls are scared, and the best weapon against fear is humor. Say or do something completely ridiculous and unexpected to make her laugh. Most shy girls are also super outgoing once you get to know them because they have it bottled up inside, so you just have to break through that shell and once you're through you're good.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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JLay87 said:
I don't necessarily agree with this. There is such a thing as a shy person, and it's not because you don't make them comfortable but because they're not comfortable in general, either in new situations or with new people or whatever. It's not always you specifically, and with most shy girls I don't think it is at all.

Shy girls are scared, and the best weapon against fear is humor. Say or do something completely ridiculous and unexpected to make her laugh. Most shy girls are also super outgoing once you get to know them because they have it bottled up inside, so you just have to break through that shell and once you're through you're good.
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yeh you are right... im in a bad mood not cause i did not F this HB10 that came to my houselast night.. wwwaaa:cry: :cry: :cry:
 
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DonGorgon said:
Women are not shy .. ether you make them comfortable or you dont..

"im shy.." = you dont make me feel comfotable you probably will not F me ever.
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Can't say I didn't expect this response, but not necessarily true as I've made progress in this department.

As I've said she's improved from the first date, but still not as talkative as the norm. Maybe that's just the way she is, but was curious to hear of others experience with this type of women.
 
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JLay87 said:
I don't necessarily agree with this. There is such a thing as a shy person, and it's not because you don't make them comfortable but because they're not comfortable in general, either in new situations or with new people or whatever. It's not always you specifically, and with most shy girls I don't think it is at all.

Shy girls are scared, and the best weapon against fear is humor. Say or do something completely ridiculous and unexpected to make her laugh. Most shy girls are also super outgoing once you get to know them because they have it bottled up inside, so you just have to break through that shell and once you're through you're good.
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I agree, making her laugh has helped. Many people are like that. They are quiet when meeting new people, but once they get to know you they open up.
 
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Have a couple drinks with her. I used to be really shy... and couldn't open up to someone without a few drinks. Once i opened up once... I felt comfortable going forward.

The other option is to find something she really likes talking about. We all have that one thing... find it.

And let a little bit of your "cool vulnerablity" show through. Shy people are often afraid of extroverts and like to see that extroverts have a human side too...
 
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