"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Conversations Stalling Out?

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This is an issue I’ve been having while I’m doing my cold approaches. Opening is no problem at all. But sometimes after I talk to them a bit, I just get “stuck” in the conversation while I’m building rapport. Like the “what do I talk about now” kind of stuck.

What do you all do about this? Any tips?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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so she don't drop anything for you to ask about?
 

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so she don't drop anything for you to ask about?
Depends on the person. Some people have been really easy to talk to, and give me lots to work with.

But other times, I’ll either get stuck on
1.) What should I talk about after the opener
Or
2.) A conversational thread will die and I don’t know where to take it from there
 

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then take the cue to understand some people don't want to talk, if you do a opener and that person don't answers, or just give one short answer without much on it and you can't add the question "what you think?" after, you move on
 

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Always have a mental bucket list of interesting topics ready, or talk about the quirky bartender you just situationally observed, but it takes two people to make a convo and if it dies out it may be lack of interest on her part. If you have to put in All the convo work, she’s not doing her share. An interested woman will bring up topics and make comments you can work with by herself…
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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That's because it's impossible to force conversation when there's nothing of substance to talk about.

What you REALLY want to say is "I want to have sex with you," but that isn't appropriate. So in essence, you are being dishonest. Although being dishonest is most likely preferable to asking a stranger to have sex with you.

I bet you have no problem maintaining conversations when there is actually something to talk about, such as handling some kind of business.
 

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The good sign that a woman is not really interested in you is her unwillingness to keep a conversation going. You have to let her talk, and if she won't then you really have nothing to work with. But if you just met a chick and it's really not a good idea to try and drag out a conversation anyway. Just make polite chit chat and tell her you have to run and ask from her number or just ask her out. If she likes you she will go along with that, if not... well, now you have your answer... onto the next one.

Your problem is that you are trying to attract chicks with 'words', attraction is sub-conscious.. it's body language and how you present yourself that is the most important. I think the biggest problem with guys that do not have a lot of experience with chicks is that they haven't really learned how to read women.
 

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Always have a mental bucket list of interesting topics ready, or talk about the quirky bartender you just situationally observed, but it takes two people to make a convo and if it dies out it may be lack of interest on her part. If you have to put in All the convo work, she’s not doing her share. An interested woman will bring up topics and make comments you can work with by herself…
That is very true. I thought of a few that I can use when I go out and approach again:
Where she’s from
Talents/hobbies
Musical Taste
Pop Culture
Fashion
 

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The good sign that a woman is not really interested in you is her unwillingness to keep a conversation going. You have to let her talk, and if she won't then you really have nothing to work with. But if you just met a chick and it's really not a good idea to try and drag out a conversation anyway. Just make polite chit chat and tell her you have to run and ask from her number or just ask her out. If she likes you she will go along with that, if not... well, now you have your answer... onto the next one.

Your problem is that you are trying to attract chicks with 'words', attraction is sub-conscious.. it's body language and how you present yourself that is the most important. I think the biggest problem with guys that do not have a lot of experience with chicks is that they haven't really learned how to read women.
Body language and confidence are some other big things that I’m working on. I feel like self improvement/inner Game will naturally boost those as well.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The best way to compliment a woman on what she is wearing it to notice when things match. Women take a lot of time getting ready to go out, and it you notice that her ear rings match her dress or shoes. You will impress her.

Having said that, it's really not a good idea to over compliment a women because it comes off as manipulation and it will turn her off. Right when you first see her, if you HONESTLY like something she is wearing or how she looks, then go ahead and tell her... but that should be it.
 
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