I recently started having sex with this girl and I see the potential of us being able to have very, very awesome sex (It's already the best I've had, but I see so much potential as well). We both put a lot into it.
I'm wondering, from those of you who have much experience, if it's a good idea to talk to the girl about sex (such as things to try, what you/she likes, locations, etc).
Part of me thinks such conversations will act as a catalyst towards reaching that very, very awesome sex. But another part wonders if such conversations might perhaps "kill the magic", analyzing it and turning it into this scientific, mechanical thing.
I already analyze sex on my own (hard to help, addicted to thinking), and I find this helpful towards growth as it allows me to become more aware of everything. But I wonder if keeping your analysis to yourself might not help create the mystery and magic of the sexual experience for the other.
I'm guessing it's much more satisfying to discover that she, for example, really likes the back of her neck blown on, then to have her just come out and tell you that. And it's these discoveries that will keep you both continually exploring and trying new things.
Which brings us to sosuave: I'm not the most sexually experienced (yet
), so I just wanted to post these thoughts so that I could read responses and advice from those with much more sexual experience.
I'm wondering, from those of you who have much experience, if it's a good idea to talk to the girl about sex (such as things to try, what you/she likes, locations, etc).
Part of me thinks such conversations will act as a catalyst towards reaching that very, very awesome sex. But another part wonders if such conversations might perhaps "kill the magic", analyzing it and turning it into this scientific, mechanical thing.
I already analyze sex on my own (hard to help, addicted to thinking), and I find this helpful towards growth as it allows me to become more aware of everything. But I wonder if keeping your analysis to yourself might not help create the mystery and magic of the sexual experience for the other.
I'm guessing it's much more satisfying to discover that she, for example, really likes the back of her neck blown on, then to have her just come out and tell you that. And it's these discoveries that will keep you both continually exploring and trying new things.
Which brings us to sosuave: I'm not the most sexually experienced (yet
), so I just wanted to post these thoughts so that I could read responses and advice from those with much more sexual experience.