Conversations on Sex?

[forward]

I recently started having sex with this girl and I see the potential of us being able to have very, very awesome sex (It's already the best I've had, but I see so much potential as well). We both put a lot into it.

I'm wondering, from those of you who have much experience, if it's a good idea to talk to the girl about sex (such as things to try, what you/she likes, locations, etc).

Part of me thinks such conversations will act as a catalyst towards reaching that very, very awesome sex. But another part wonders if such conversations might perhaps "kill the magic", analyzing it and turning it into this scientific, mechanical thing.

I already analyze sex on my own (hard to help, addicted to thinking), and I find this helpful towards growth as it allows me to become more aware of everything. But I wonder if keeping your analysis to yourself might not help create the mystery and magic of the sexual experience for the other.

I'm guessing it's much more satisfying to discover that she, for example, really likes the back of her neck blown on, then to have her just come out and tell you that. And it's these discoveries that will keep you both continually exploring and trying new things.

Which brings us to sosuave: I'm not the most sexually experienced (yet ), so I just wanted to post these thoughts so that I could read responses and advice from those with much more sexual experience.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

There is nothing wrong with it and I encourage it. Ask, her what her favorite position is, ask her what she likes best. But, here is a tip for you. When, you wanna try a new position. You don't necesarilly have to ask. You can just put her in that position and start getting busy.

 

[AgentRice]

dont be affraid to talk about it.. they'll end up begging for it if you play ur cards right.. just keep in control of it all

 

[forward]

Do you find that there are particularly good/bad times to talk about such things? Like does it work well to talk about sex when you're doing other things (dinner, walk, etc)? I'm guessing it doesn't really matter: so long as you're confident and comfortable with it you can do whatever you want.

 

[jafyk]

Forward, your signature is very touching. I think I'm gonna cry.Gimme a moment... Ok, I'm good