Conversational Mastery

[infinitism]

How do you keep a conversation going without making it sound like you're fetching for things to talk about or relate to?


When I am around men and there is a silence, they seem ok with it. However, when I'm with a woman (or more than one woman), they seem to get fidgety and uncomfortable when there isn't dialogue going on. (ex. I am eating dinner with a friend that's a girl, and neither of us can really talk when there is food in our mouths)


How do you relieve (or prevent) such awkward tension?

 

[infinitism]

Perhaps another way to ask this would be, how do you make someone truly comfortable to be around you, whether you're talking with a man, or woman?


I am thinking it has something to do with leadership capabilities.... but not sure what that exactly entails........

 

[Vice]

Practice. That's all it takes.

Multi-threading conversation is what you want to do as well. Make an observation about something, and talk about it, and let it segway into something else. This is how I steer conversations towards sex and women's bicurious tendencies.

Sometimes a girl will be nervous though, and will be too shy to talk. In that case, call her out on it, and/or convey that you're not going to judge her. This is one of those times that it's okay to be a "nice guy", is when the girl is shy and thinks you're super hot and intimidating.