"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Hollowpoint

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Originally posted by skinnydart
Come up to her when you (or she) is wrapping things up. Start off with a few of the questions you mentioned above (not all of them right off the bat), then follow up with. "So do you want to get some lunch (or a cup of coffee) with me?" "I'm heading to restraunt name, do you want to join me?"
Wrong.
Do not ask.

TELL her: 'Give me your number and we'll get together sometime for coffee.'
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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napoleon

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The problem is she's always on the girly machines(bike,leg curl,...) so I can't really come to a machine up to her.Problem is girls machinas are in another room than mens.
 

napoleon

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Should I ask her number even if she might have a boyfriend. (she was talking to her friend and I overheard a man's name...I=AFC).She said she doesn't go to clubbing ,only to bars.She doesn't go out on friday.
 

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well, you won't know till you find out will you? stop procrastinating and just do it!
 

napoleon

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So your saying I should do it? Also I came to a little conclusion. How come there are more taken girls than guys if there are more women than man on earth?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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