"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ok, I am able to start a conversation with girls and keep it going. Its really easy once you get the use of it. But I have one problem though. When I start a conversation, its like girls explode. They keep talking and dont stop till I say I have to go. Usually I would say a couple of things but mostly just "yeah", "i know whatcha mean" and nods. Halfway through the conversation I fell like running away or somthing. I think I have some kind of social anxiety. I liked being a loner back in highschool, but ever since I gave up playing videogames so much and going to college, I want to meet new people and get laid. Its going to be hard to break out of this shell :/
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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yes, theres some ppl who find it hard to start a convo, and keep it going. finding girls who can talk for hrs is almost a good thing unless you want to talk as well.
 
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Originally posted by BlackDragon
Ok, I am able to start a conversation with girls and keep it going. Its really easy once you get the use of it. But I have one problem though. When I start a conversation, its like girls explode. They keep talking and dont stop till I say I have to go. Usually I would say a couple of things but mostly just "yeah", "i know whatcha mean" and nods. Halfway through the conversation I fell like running away or somthing. I think I have some kind of social anxiety. I liked being a loner back in highschool, but ever since I gave up playing videogames so much and going to college, I want to meet new people and get laid. Its going to be hard to break out of this shell :/
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lol at everyone thinking the slighetst problem is "social-anxiety" This is why i despise shrinks and doctors.

Anyway.hoes just talk alot this isn't a problem..this is actually a good thing for you,dogg.
 
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