"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Life-Trainee

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I have no problem starting conversations with girls in public that look unique. We have lots of art students in this area so often you'll see a person exercising a weird style. Just this moring at the train station I saw a girl with "hippie hair" that look like dried french fries. So I commented whether I could have one of her fries :) and had a small pleasant conversation. However, for the life of me I can't find conversation hooks with normal looking people. I consider myself observant but often people just don't look that different from the norm. I kind of gave up on the "Hi, where you heading" kind of opener for my train approaches. I found that slightly humorous openers work better. Any idea how to tease on ordinary looking people?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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abcd_z

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Have you tried stacking canner material? When I can't find anything unique, sometimes I'll use the "who lies more" opener and transition to some fun stories. Pretty much every non-dynamic opener I use I get from masf. Man, they have *everything* there.

Or, I'll just say whatever happens to be on my mind at the time. I remember I was in such a good mood one time, I successfully opened with "I have a pink cookie!"

Well, it was one of those sugar cookies with the pink frosting. I picked it up a few miles away, so I could transition from there into the story of what I was doing in Seattle.

Anyhow, the point is this: It doesn't have to be something interesting or unique about the girl. It could also be something fun or interesting that you can show to her.
 

mrsoy

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and like batman's trainer always said in the new movie: be aware of your surroundings..comment on that too
 
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