masteralios
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tell us about ur best conversation openers in any situtation
all help is highly appreciated guys
all help is highly appreciated guys
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Kineti[C]harm
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Hi
captn caveman
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Hi
With a nod of your head moving up.
With a nod of your head moving up.
squirrels
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Completely dependent on the situation. With "hi" as a reasonable fallback. 
louis
Don Juan
I started another thread on this called 'Favourite conversation starters' here -
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?threadid=47132
Regarding 'hi', that's fine, but it's what you say next that's important. There's no point in saying 'hi' for it to end up like this -
Man: hi
Woman: hi
Man: er - yes - um - 'bye (looks embarrassed)
Woman: 'bye
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?threadid=47132
Regarding 'hi', that's fine, but it's what you say next that's important. There's no point in saying 'hi' for it to end up like this -
Man: hi
Woman: hi
Man: er - yes - um - 'bye (looks embarrassed)
Woman: 'bye
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.