"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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moto

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Hey guys,

When you approach a girl you already know or even a new one and say "Hey, How are you doing?"

Sometimes these girls respond by saying Im frustrated or Im Stressed im Sad, etc.


I was wondering what true DJ's do here go ahead and ask her why she is feeling however she is feeling or say something else such as Oh yea im having a great day or im also frustrated.

I was thinking about this becuase after the girls say how they are feeling they want you to ask why. Should we do what they want?

its really not a big deal maybe im just thinking too much.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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lyamdb

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I think its best to make up a funny reason for how she's feeling and then tease her in a friendly and playful manner!
 

Potbelly

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me: Hey how's it going?
her: well...i'm kinda stressed cuz
me: oh llook at the time. gotta run.
her: o_O
 

Mr Autobahn

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That is a very interesting question.

Normally, as you can tell from the answers from a lot of the posters, being frank can scare guys off.

I think women are more intuitive and emotional. But I never had a woman that I just met drop that kind of comment to me about how they are feeling.

However, the women that I already know -- are much more comfortable to say to me "I'm having a crappy day."

I think the answer to your question is this: Both women and men appreciate the people who listen to them.

However, the problem I see from this situation is you can very easily be seen as a jerk with flippant comments OR become a sponge for every imaginable problem the woman unloads on you.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Axcell

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I suppose that is a great question, so I'll take a couple of minutes to answer it.
For starters, what I try to do when approaching a girl is to make observations of her, and depending on what I observe, I ask a question that pertains to the observation. If you don't understand a word I just said, I'll give you an example.

Let's say there is an HB8 outside that you know sitting on a park bench alone. The observation I would make is that she is somewhat sad and so I would respond with, "Hey, you look really down right now." (Although, I will note that I avoid approaching girls at this state because it can lead to her looking at you as a shoulder to cry on, which means you end up in the friends-zone.)
Try to catch the HB when she is in a very positive and joyful mood and ask her: "Hey you look really happy right now, what's the occasion?" ;)
It's a much better opener than "Hey, what's up?" which ends up leading to one or two word answers.

As for your example above, I thought of a ****y+funny statement which you can use for that HB9:

You: Hey, how are you doing?
HB9: I'm sad right now.
You: What's there to be sad about, (Insert your name) has just entered the building. ;)

When a girl is in a sad/frustrated state, I avoid making deep conversations so that she ends up spilling all her feelings on me. So I try to just make her laugh and build rapport with her. There's a big difference, hope I made that clear. You just need to be able to bring her spirits back to life instead of asking her what's wrong and instead of her getting into every detail of it. The last thing you want is for her to see you as a shoulder to cry on!

Hope I helped.
 

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frustrated huh........DO U KNOW........I GOT A INSTANT CURE FOR STRESS AND FRUSTRATION CURE

then you plant a kiss right on her lips..........or u can do the shoulder rub POOR BABY.....let me relieve some stress.

SOMETIMES ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS........stop looking for the clever come backs and KINO right there.

NEXT TIME she WILL think of you as the guy that relieved some stress.

Alpha males would suggest sex........but you're not that good........yet.
 
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