Conversation insight

[Lolapo]

Short read backstory: Met her 2 months ago, she was interested then i got to needy, we went on a date once though and it went good because i was myself. then i got needy again through fb chat.

I didn't talk to her for 3 days then i sent her a text that we were going to the cinema this weekend, she said she might go on a trip but wasn't sure yet. I said, lemme know. This is what followed a few days after (keep in mind she had pretty high interest but i was to needy and she got colder and more distant.)

HER: Btw i'm not going on the trip
ME(5hours later): how boring of u
HER: u know meeeee
ME: So instead of being boring, we're going to the movies n i'll pick you up so you don't have to take a bus
HER: I can drive myself ayeeee
ME: have fun on your bike (she can't drive yet, 17yo)
HER: funnyman..
i didn't know what to make up of this so i didn't respond, 5min later she said ->
HER: when do you want to go?
ME: Tomorrownight 8o clock tuesday is holiday anyway
HER: I have a dinner tomorrownight..
ME: okaay np
HER: Is the movietheatre open tuesday?
ME: think so
HER: Hmm if i can manage to cancel my work tuesday, i'd be able to go then
(i was very inclined to say ok tuesday it is but there was a possibility she wouldn't be able to cancel and then i'd be toyed with again)
ME: I can only go in the evening btw, can't go during the day so dunno
HER: ooh i cant go in the evening..
ME: To bad other time then
HER: indeed..
HER: anyway how are you doing lately?
ME: good, surviving winter
HER: haha good

I ended it here and didn't respond. I think i did good but i am open to advice so shoot! IMO i still have her interest, (bc she asked me 'when i wanted to go' and tried to reschedule herself. it's just dropped a bit and i can still get it back up by going no contact (3days now) and being myself again.
So what i'm doing to get her interest back up like it used to:
- NC untill she initiates or till a week has passed so i can re-engage
- I've been posting some stuff on FB of my music and sports which is a mix in martial arts and gymnastics, this way she sees i'm just living my life and bc i'm on NC it'll have even more effect

Lend me your insights for i am new here

 

[Lolapo]

any insights of what you guys might make out of this?

 

[marmel75]

Yes, stop adding girls you are interested on Facebook, nothing good can come of it

 

[Starfvcks 64]

It's not a GREAT convo, but nothing is that bad about it.
Her wanting to drive instead of being picked up isn't the best, and hints towards friendzone. All you can do in this situation is wait for HER to contact you again. She knows you want to hang out and you left it open for her. You have it right about NC, but it is important to steer clear of "chatting." You want to get her to agree on a date, and that's it. Save the convo for the date. A girl who doesn't agree to a date, but keeps chatting with you is a girl looking for a friend AKA attention AKA you get friendzoned.
Stop using FB as a way to impress, or meet girls. Really, just stop using FB as much as possible. Not having FB will help you more times than it will hurt.

This is really all you needed in the convo:
Her: btw i'm not going on the trip
You: nice, that gives us time to catch a movie. what is your schedule like?
Her: i'm free {insert days and time}
You: alright, I'll pick you up Thursday around 6


OR
You: nice, that gives us time to catch a movie. what is your schedule like?
Her: i'm really busy all week.
You: alright, text me when you get your schedule and we'll set it up

 

[Lolapo]

It's not a GREAT convo, but nothing is that bad about it.
Her wanting to drive instead of being picked up isn't the best, and hints towards friendzone. All you can do in this situation is wait for HER to contact you again. She knows you want to hang out and you left it open for her. You have it right about NC, but it is important to steer clear of "chatting." You want to get her to agree on a date, and that's it. Save the convo for the date. A girl who doesn't agree to a date, but keeps chatting with you is a girl looking for a friend AKA attention AKA you get friendzoned.
Stop using FB as a way to impress, or meet girls. Really, just stop using FB as much as possible. Not having FB will help you more times than it will hurt.

This is really all you needed in the convo:
Her: btw i'm not going on the trip
Me: nice, that gives us time to catch a movie. what is your schedule like?
Her: i'm free {insert days and time}
Me: alright, I'll pick you up Thursday around 6
Her: i can drive myself
Me: sounds good

It's because i had no other way to contact her because she lives about 40km away. She isn't looking to chat lately and so am i so i'm just going to kee going NC. She was highly interested and she's seen a pic of me with a different girl thats into me so i think she'll start missing the attention she got when i was needy and start to up my value bc of the attraction i get from others.

About the answers you think i should've given, Alright, text me when you get your shedule and we'll set it up I think this is very wrong (no offense) because it's like i'm saying: ill wait for you and stick around and it subtly says im needily looking forward to the date.

My answer were more 'No Caring' and 'me taking charge and if she can't make if i don't care'. Because right now she's tired of the sensitive guy i was and wants the guy back who i was when we first met, mysterious, not giving a **** and taking charge.
Let me know what you think about this.

Anyway im not going back to being beta, this forum made me see the light
Thanks for the tips!

 

[LMFAO]

Wasn't this posted already?

All you need to do is as has been posted. Go NC, when she initiates ask her what her scedule is like/plan for the week. Then arrange.

If that doesn't work then delete her in the face.

 

[Starfvcks 64]

About the answers you think i should've given, Alright, text me when you get your shedule and we'll set it up I think this is very wrong (no offense) because it's like i'm saying: ill wait for you and stick around and it subtly says im needily looking forward to the date.

My way makes it very easy and straight forward to gauge interest level. I understand where you're coming from, but I use that line all the time, and I can post the screencaps to prove it works. You aren't saying "i'll wait for you, and stick around" you're saying there is a possibility you can fit her into your schedule, if she's interested (and if she's not interested that's her loss). None of the girls I date think I'm needy or too easily available. If she's not interested she will be even less interested after long text "chats" or weak text game. Don't waste time with maybes. If she's interested, she'll commit to a time eagerly. It's that simple.

If you want to go your route, which I can see some positives in as well, a text like "no worries" will drive her crazy. It's your call.

 

[Lolapo]

My way makes it very easy and straight forward to gauge interest level. I understand where you're coming from, but I use that line all the time, and I can post the screencaps to prove it works. You aren't saying "i'll wait for you, and stick around" you're saying there is a possibility you can fit her into your schedule, if she's interested (and if she's not interested that's her loss). None of the girls I date think I'm needy or too easily available. If she's not interested she will be even less interested after long text "chats" or weak text game. Don't waste time with maybes. If she's interested, she'll commit to a time eagerly. It's that simple.

If you want to go your route, which I can see some positives in as well, a text like "no worries" will drive her crazy. It's your call.

I understand and ofc i believe it works but I THINK, and correct me if i'm wrong bc i'm here for tips, in this situation i'm in, every move i make that can be misinterpreted to needyness can push her away more so with the thing i said, there was no misinterpretation possible where i would come over as needy.