"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Controlling your emotions with a HB plate.

spiegel549

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Every once in a while I will come across a broad that I meet that is just a dime in my book. Hot athletic body, big titz, big azz, and a really gorgeous face.

I'll pursue it just like I always do, approach confident, be smooth, be cool, and talk with my gift of gab. So I get there number, go out a few times, and we end up smashing.

My big problem is once I smash a plate that I am really really into my game/attitude changes. A regular 6 or 7 plate I am fine but when I get with one thats real hot in my eyes I turn into this needy girl where I find myself texting her just to hear from her, looking at my phone to see if she read the text already, or I send stupid **** via text like a photo just to get a reaction from her.

I am normally not like this. Its just these really hot ones that are rare, turn me into a big beta that I know I don't want to be ever again.

I need some guidance/tips on controlling it. Something that I can run through my head that will remind me to keep cool from start - finish.

Thanks Guys!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Bingo-Player

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its self control man

ive had to take 6 months out of the field to combat this and I'm just about getting there but the only way i can do it is by valuing myself way above any woman

it takes about 10 days of wrestling with your ego before that "oh **** i really need to hear from her" wears off

its a pain in the ass and will sometimes hurt like hell but you will eventually see through her looks and she's just another hoe ....then its her turn to start chasing

good luck
 

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All about self control. What I do is think about my mindset when I first got he girl, the mindset that attracted her from the start. Then act that way and stop thinking with my emotions/**** I just stay in control and relaxed. That is key.
 

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JohnChops said:
All about self control. What I do is think about my mindset when I first got he girl, the mindset that attracted her from the start. Then act that way and stop thinking with my emotions/**** I just stay in control and relaxed. That is key.
Just tried this one out. Pretty effective, at least for the moment. I'll see how it goes later and next time. OP should try this one too and let us know how it goes.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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JoeMarron

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The more you invest the more you catch feelings. All those cutesy little texts, even thinking about her is a form of investment. Also, just be a man and stop acting needy. You can feel emotions without acting on them. Hell there are plenty of times where I'm feeling needy. I may feel it but I don't act on it and eventually it passes. No one is holding a gun to your head demanding that you text her. Like the others said, it's all about self control.
 

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It's the same as smoking a cigarette, stop the urge, be a man and have self control, just don't text her all the time it's not that hard
 

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spiegel549 said:
Every once in a while I will come across a broad that I meet that is just a dime in my book. Hot athletic body, big titz, big azz, and a really gorgeous face.

I'll pursue it just like I always do, approach confident, be smooth, be cool, and talk with my gift of gab. So I get there number, go out a few times, and we end up smashing.

My big problem is once I smash a plate that I am really really into my game/attitude changes. A regular 6 or 7 plate I am fine but when I get with one thats real hot in my eyes I turn into this needy girl where I find myself texting her just to hear from her, looking at my phone to see if she read the text already, or I send stupid **** via text like a photo just to get a reaction from her.

I am normally not like this. Its just these really hot ones that are rare, turn me into a big beta that I know I don't want to be ever again.

I need some guidance/tips on controlling it. Something that I can run through my head that will remind me to keep cool from start - finish.

Thanks Guys!
I used to have this problem after smashing the hot ones too. But it amazes me how guys act alpha before having sex, and then beta once they have had the sex.

Bro you have to be in control. You are already having sex with her, what more do you want? Would you rather her be texting you and giving you smiling faces but no sex? The only thing you should be caring about is sleeping with her. If she gives up her body to you, she has to be much more worried than you about the relationship and where it's going.
 

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You know where it can potentially lead...enjoy it; destroy it.
 
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