"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

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Controling Negative Thoughts.

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How do you control negative thoughts? What are some techniques for dealing with/changing a negative mindset?
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

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Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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You begin by examining where the thought come from. Let say you in a bar and you see a hottie giving you the eye.
All of the sudden your mind will try to hold you back.

"She may here with a boyfriend" <<<< your mind at work

So you now decide to wait a bit before approaching to find out if the girl is alone or not. You just became a slave to your mind.

The mind is the most powerful tool we have and 99% of humans aren't in control of theirs. It is powerful because we think our mind is our friend and that's not always the case.

In the book the power of now the author explains a way of controlling not only negative thought but all thoughts is to be concious/aware at all time that your mind a separate entity from you. I know this explanation is very vague. You should read the book.

What you've asked is basically how to reprogram yourself from the matrix and that takessss timeeeeeee and effort.
 
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First off, stop the source of negativity. Majority of the media Tv, news, music, and movies are generally negative and have spent millions to put conscious and subconscious subliminal messages within them.

Second, disconnect from negative people and situations. When something bad happens to somebody, some start having a fear of that happening to them... Just stand back from that situation and stop yourself.

Third quiet your mind, stop replaying negative events of the past and stop with the negative talk to yourself.
 
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Get a notebook.
Write all your faults on one side of the notebook and all your positive aspects on the other. Figure out how to fix the faults and give yourself a mental pat on the back for all the positive parts.
Every night, before you go to sleep, write down what you did to fix any faults you have and improve yourself. Also write what you want to try to do and fix tomorrow. Then, the next day, write what you fixed and what you want to fix tomorrow. Do this for 15 days. If your faults aren't gone, they're long-term. Either seek help or make a long-term improvement routine.

Realize negative thoughts are pointless. Never think of faults as a bad thing but a challenge to improve yourself. Negativity wastes energy and does nothing to fix a problem.
 
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