"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Controling Negative Thoughts.

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How do you control negative thoughts? What are some techniques for dealing with/changing a negative mindset?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You begin by examining where the thought come from. Let say you in a bar and you see a hottie giving you the eye.
All of the sudden your mind will try to hold you back.

"She may here with a boyfriend" <<<< your mind at work

So you now decide to wait a bit before approaching to find out if the girl is alone or not. You just became a slave to your mind.

The mind is the most powerful tool we have and 99% of humans aren't in control of theirs. It is powerful because we think our mind is our friend and that's not always the case.

In the book the power of now the author explains a way of controlling not only negative thought but all thoughts is to be concious/aware at all time that your mind a separate entity from you. I know this explanation is very vague. You should read the book.

What you've asked is basically how to reprogram yourself from the matrix and that takessss timeeeeeee and effort.
 
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First off, stop the source of negativity. Majority of the media Tv, news, music, and movies are generally negative and have spent millions to put conscious and subconscious subliminal messages within them.

Second, disconnect from negative people and situations. When something bad happens to somebody, some start having a fear of that happening to them... Just stand back from that situation and stop yourself.

Third quiet your mind, stop replaying negative events of the past and stop with the negative talk to yourself.
 
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Get a notebook.
Write all your faults on one side of the notebook and all your positive aspects on the other. Figure out how to fix the faults and give yourself a mental pat on the back for all the positive parts.
Every night, before you go to sleep, write down what you did to fix any faults you have and improve yourself. Also write what you want to try to do and fix tomorrow. Then, the next day, write what you fixed and what you want to fix tomorrow. Do this for 15 days. If your faults aren't gone, they're long-term. Either seek help or make a long-term improvement routine.

Realize negative thoughts are pointless. Never think of faults as a bad thing but a challenge to improve yourself. Negativity wastes energy and does nothing to fix a problem.
 
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