"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Control Freak/No Trust

Solja J

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I've been with this girl for a week now. She usually calls about 8-12 times per day. I went over to her house and she asked to see my phone. When I get the phone back all of the girl #'s I had are deleted. Most of them were just friends to begin with. While on the phone yesterday she accuses me of already having a girlfriend. I called her from the bowling alley and my battery was low. We had to get off the phone because of it. She says "I bet you're going to try to hit on a girl in the bowling alley. Our relationship has no trust except for me trusting her. Any advice on the subject would be greatly appreciated!
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Solja J

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So was I wrong to give her the phone in the 1st place?
 

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Run...dont look back. Yea you were. Dump that chick, she sounds kinda possesive/crazy.
 

Solja J

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lol that would be very hard because she is so dang fine
 

Patrick124

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Must I reiterate: Ditch the B*tch.
That completely disrespectful. She ahs no respectfor you, and no trust in you at all. a LTR is nothing without trust.
If my gf deleted all my ladies #s I ***** at her till she was on her knees[begging lol] me to come back.
Get away, and as he said, don't look back.
Right now she thinks YOU are HER ***** adn she can control you like a puppy.:(
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Woah! Abandon ship! This girl is ridiculously insecure and is going to be nothing but a pain in the ass.
 

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You've been here for the better part of a year and you need to ask us what to do in this situation?
 

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Hey Porky I haven't been here in a very long time. It would just be so hard to break up with her. She even starts the touching and stuff.
 

Best friends? NAY

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HEY, if she's already accusing you of cheating, then just do it. GET like 50 more girls numbers and put them in your phone.
 

Solja J

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lol
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Jus do watever u want, let her be all possesive if she wants but dont let it affect you. Also, **** her, or else its not worth it.:p
 

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Lol I'm a virgin who is scared of the protection breaking. Plus I don't think she's like that because she's a v 2!
 

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Whoa dude

Either **** her, or **** her. You don't need to deal with that crap. TONS of other chicks would flock to you just cause your a don juan. She's not the chick for a don juan, she seems like the chick that would want an AFC. Shes a super B*tch from hell.

DUMP HER AND NEXT!
 

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listen to me and listen to me well..

your g/f is doing that because she is paranoid. She's doing the exact same thing to you that she DOESN'T want you doing to her. If she thinks you're out cheating with other girls it's because she out cheating on you with other DUDES. Believe me.
 

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Okay thnx 4 the advice
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Wonderbread166

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She could be cheating on you, but you can't be sure. What's for sure is you can't put up with her ****.

NEEEEEEEEXT:p
 

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Originally posted by the_great_gaia
listen to me and listen to me well..

your g/f is doing that because she is paranoid. She's doing the exact same thing to you that she DOESN'T want you doing to her. If she thinks you're out cheating with other girls it's because she out cheating on you with other DUDES. Believe me.
Indeed, a good sign of a cheater..right on the money gaia. I hope you're dealing with your separation from hell bytch well...:)
 

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She apologized for it and said she was only messing with me.
 

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Who cares, just dump her
 

Solja J

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lol nah I think I can break her!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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