"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Contradictions...

5uave

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Hi All,

So heres what happened...I go to a Halloween party a few weeks ago and I see this hb that works on the same floor as I do. So I approached. " Hey don't you work at "xxxxxxxx?" She says "yea". I asked What her name was, she tells me, shakes my hand and then turns her back on me to talk to her girl friends who she came with! So I'm standing there...thinking WOW what a biatch! so I walk away, went back to my crew and did our thing... dance with mad girls, drink, have fun, and laugh. My boys teasing me about how that girl blew me off. But watevers, no worries here.

So Monday comes along...and I see her coming out the door to go to the elevators and I coming from the elevator. She lookin good as usual and gives me this big smile and says "hi". All i did was say "hey" and kept walking!

So heres the contradiction on the DJ aspect...Should I forget about how she dissed me and start gamin her now? or should I act cool about it and leave it alone, because she was a biatch with a pretty face and I won't give in to her because of her looks?

Im not a bad looking guy, tall, dress well for work, plenty of friends, plenty of plates spinning going right now. I feel like I shouldn't let her get to me because then I'm letting my emotions come in play and that's not how i remembered being a DJ. I'm suppose to be cool and confident about myself so why would i let this girl get to me. Then again...I shouldnt let her dis me like that and then start gaming her now.

So do I or don't I start gaming? shes a 7.5 in my books.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DavenJuan

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5uave said:
Hi All,

So heres what happened...I go to a Halloween party a few weeks ago and I see this hb that works on the same floor as I do. So I approached. " Hey don't you work at "xxxxxxxx?" She says "yea". I asked What her name was, she tells me, shakes my hand and then turns her back on me to talk to her girl friends who she came with! So I'm standing there...thinking WOW what a biatch! so I walk away, went back to my crew and did our thing... dance with mad girls, drink, have fun, and laugh. My boys teasing me about how that girl blew me off. But watevers, no worries here.

So Monday comes along...and I see her coming out the door to go to the elevators and I coming from the elevator. She lookin good as usual and gives me this big smile and says "hi". All i did was say "hey" and kept walking!

So heres the contradiction on the DJ aspect...Should I forget about how she dissed me and start gamin her now? or should I act cool about it and leave it alone, because she was a biatch with a pretty face and I won't give in to her because of her looks?

Im not a bad looking guy, tall, dress well for work, plenty of friends, plenty of plates spinning going right now. I feel like I shouldn't let her get to me because then I'm letting my emotions come in play and that's not how i remembered being a DJ. I'm suppose to be cool and confident about myself so why would i let this girl get to me. Then again...I shouldnt let her dis me like that and then start gaming her now.

So do I or don't I start gaming? shes a 7.5 in my books.
her loss buddy..unfortunately she didnt wanna get on your ride...to bad she didnt know you were gonig to the sky!

keep those plates spinning..no ONE girl is worth gettin to you...and never take it personal..who knows why she blew you off
 

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Just completely ignore her and if she starts jumping though hoops, reward her. If youre spinning plates you already know this ;)
 
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