"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Contradiction

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Hello fellow dj's,

I'll cut right into the chase. When reading seduction guides, e-book or whatever I have found many contradictions in advice and ways. Some of them could be linked together after some thought. Some if presented with confidence would'nt matter anyway. But the one thing that is making me lose my mind, is the conversation bit:

- Most of the advice here about conversation is making it all about her or most of it and so on. And your conversation should be filled with questions.
But on the other hand;
- Juggler's method says that you should'nt ask questions and only talk in statements form and elicite your values. And the conversation should be all about you.

so which is right?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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one more thing

some say, when a HB enters a place you're in you should totally ignore her and act as if she's isn't even there, and other say you should right away notice her and give her your full attention, and the 3rd opinion says you should give her the most attention then take it back and so forth..

which do you think is more handy?
 

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This isn't a matter of trying and experimenting. and it isn't also a matter of personal style. because if it would've been like that, I would'nt post here and ask about it. Anyway thanks for your input.

but I'd like more input about speaking X listening - ignorance X attention.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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one more contradicted advice I've found is:
Some people here say you have to be very picky in case you want to be successful with women, and some say you have to bang every HB that comes in your way..

what's your input on this?
 

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It depends where you are and what you want. If you are struggling to get to any point of seduction with women, then obviously you have a sticking point or two to get rid of. In that case the advice is to sleep with a lot of HB's to get your confidence up. The idea that you have to be picky means that you can disqualify women if they don't meet your standard. You will find a lot of MPUA's do this because they know they can have attractive women, they are int he market for attractive women who meet their standard.
 
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