"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Contraception

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My gf is on the pill and claims that it isnt 100% effective, does anyone know anything about this? her knowledge comes from friends rather than medicine specialists so i think she could have easily been told rubbish.

She insists i wear a condom as a result which im not happy about. Are some pills not 100% effective?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'm Charming

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It's not 100% effective but its pretty close at 98%. About 1 in every 50 women will get pregnant a year whilst using it as a contraceptive.
 

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The risk of the the pill not working is mostly in the behavior of the woman. Missing a day or more drops the effectiveness. Smoking cigarettes also drops the effectiveness of the pill. Antibiotic medications do as well - antibiotics are given very commonly and for a number if different ailments. If she forgets to take pills, there are other methods like the depo shot and the nuva ring that do not require everyday attention, but these can also be affected by smoking and antibiotics - mostly the antibiotics.

Technically, she is right, but I personally would not put up with it, if she is responsible about taking the pill. Most guys here will tell you to wrap up anyway; that is up to you. I haven't used a condom since I was in high school, always had a wife or gf on the pill, and am yet to knock anyone up, but these are your choices to make.
 

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she doesnt smoke but the contraceptive pill she takes doubles up as anti acne medication. she's not on any other medicine.

Another thing that i wonder about, as u say 1 in 50 a year get pregnant, how many times do they really get fvcked tho? And is it that it just doesnt work all the time for 1 in 50 women but works all the time for the other 49? ive got a very high sex drive.

right and if she got pregnant by me while on the pill, and realised because she was late. what can she do about it other than abbortion?
 

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The 'morning after' pill is like abortion lite. That is an option.

That's good about the meds, but make sure she knows about the antibiotics. She become sick and be on antibiotics very quickly at any time. It's important for her to know.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is that the one that causes a period the next day? she doesnt forget to take it.
 

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sebastionay said:
she doesnt smoke but the contraceptive pill she takes doubles up as anti acne medication. she's not on any other medicine.

Another thing that i wonder about, as u say 1 in 50 a year get pregnant, how many times do they really get fvcked tho? And is it that it just doesnt work all the time for 1 in 50 women but works all the time for the other 49? ive got a very high sex drive.

right and if she got pregnant by me while on the pill, and realised because she was late. what can she do about it other than abbortion?
Most anti-acne medicines are anti-biotics, some of which can reduce the effectiveness of the pill.

I'd say the the discrepancy of two percent is mostly going to be from women that forgot to take it.
 

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Try to talk your girl into getting "the shot". They only have to get it once every few months (3 months?) and it's even more effective than the pill. You don't have to worry about her forgetting to take the pill, BUT MAKE SURE she doesn't forget to get it done every 3 months or so when she needs to. That could ruin your fun real quick. LOL
 

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She's 18 is that safe for injection?
 

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sebastionay said:
She's 18 is that safe for injection?
I don't see why not. It's so much easier than taking a pill however often it is that they have to do it. Gives you more peace of mind. How old are you, btw?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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How about talking to a doctor you both trust? I my opinion it's worth shooting the extra couple hundred dollars to get you both safe.
 

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Or maybe she knows she has something, or thinks you have something...? Just a thought.

I'm always worried about getting my gf pregnant, but even i think using pill+condom is an overkill...

If you want to be as safe as you can be without losing the enjoyment just pull out. If you never actually *** into her, and she takes her pills like she's supposed to, you'll be more than safe pregnancy-wise.

Thats if neither of you have any STDs of course, if in doubt just go get tested together.
 

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My friends girl used the pill...then one day she stopped using it (intentionally) and their kid is due in aug. She is the spawn of the devil and there are many more like that our there.
 

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Something to consider about the claimed effectiveness is that they will have put 98% for legal reasons incase it fails and someone sues. That could be a part of it.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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oakraiderz2 said:
My friends girl used the pill...then one day she stopped using it (intentionally) and their kid is due in aug. She is the spawn of the devil and there are many more like that our there.
You hear those stories all the time.

Sometimes women forget to take the pill. As another user mentioned medication can reduce the pills effectiveness. The pill is also not a 100% effective and if she gets pregnant she may want to keep it and you have no say in this (even if they tell you that they will get abortion and what not prior to being pregnant, they may change their mind once they actually faced with that decision). Then there are the psycho ones who don't even take the pill, lie to you and get pregnant on purpose.

I would also be concerned with a chick who doesn't want you to wrap it up. There are some nasty STD's out there too.
 

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DJDamage said:
I would also be concerned with a chick who doesn't want you to wrap it up. There are some nasty STD's out there too.
Thats a red flag for me right away. If i'm about to screw a girl for the first time and she doesnt want to use a condom, i will think twice about sticking it up in there,condom or not. Theres too much perfectly clean pvssy around to risk having your d1ck rot cause of some skank.
 
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