"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Le killeur

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Has anyone ever experienced a plate or possible interest that continously texts you, even when you attempt to end the conversation with a finite answer etc? Also if i simply ignore her text which has a question will this increase my value in a females eyes or will further rapport prove more valuable?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Jariel

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Girls today love to text. Most guys here will tell you to avoid texting and keeping it to a minimum, but I don't agree. I've had a lot of positive results from texting women, building rapport, comfort levels and sexual tension.

A lot of the dates I've been on flow naturally because we've done a lot of the groundwork via text, and in numerous cases I've been able to escalate to sex within a few hours of meeting just based on sexual text messages we've been sending.

But just remember to reply at your convenience and don't get drawn into boring interview style questions. Get to know a bit about her and make it fun and flirty.
 

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Cheers Jariel, i agree but i am just wondering if i suddenly stop the texting, even if her last text included a question, would this imply i wasnt interested or would the absence of my attention lead her to want me more?
 

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I agree with Jariel. My main work comes from texting. Theres been numerous times where ive set up the date the same night from... the computer, to texting, to having her come to me, to my bed room, to sex.

Plus it makes things easier on the guys point of view, you have sometime think of a comeback, your "game" doesnt need to be spot on 24/7 like on the phone or in person.
 

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Le killeur said:
Cheers Jariel, i agree but i am just wondering if i suddenly stop the texting, even if her last text included a question, would this imply i wasnt interested or would the absence of my attention lead her to want me more?
If you ignore it completely then she's probably going to think you're not interested. But if you leave it a few hours, you can keep her wondering about you, but still keep her focused on you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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i was going to ask. how the hell do you guys do this from txt. then i realized you need to have a good first impression.

witch i do not.
 

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Jariel said:
Girls today love to text. Most guys here will tell you to avoid texting and keeping it to a minimum, but I don't agree. I've had a lot of positive results from texting women, building rapport, comfort levels and sexual tension.

A lot of the dates I've been on flow naturally because we've done a lot of the groundwork via text, and in numerous cases I've been able to escalate to sex within a few hours of meeting just based on sexual text messages we've been sending.

But just remember to reply at your convenience and don't get drawn into boring interview style questions. Get to know a bit about her and make it fun and flirty.

Gonna have to agree with this here. It is not ideal, but it works.

Last night for example this chick texted me wanting a shirtless pic to which she sent a sexy one. So after sending I asked her if she liked and said she loved it, and then I said good cause you will get to see for yourself tomorrow. Then she replied with a smiley.

I let it go with that and thought that sufficed to end it and then 30 min later she texted back wondering why I stopped texting her.

These chicks love to text these days, got to get with it but at the same time try to keep it minimal as possible by not initiating unnecessary contact, and don't come off needy sending a bunch of messages if you don't get response.
 

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Its more of an instant message convo where we are just chatting. Im inclined to try vataloco's method as she sometimes waits 7 hours to reply, however i believe by keeping the convo going it is proving more beneficial as she doesnt appear to be phased by long waits
 
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