So i just freaking over one girl...and then i dont learn from my mistakes. I met a girl after my company xmas party (not from my work)..VERY hot. I end up going back to her place..staying up all night..could not seal the deal but heavy fooling around for hours. She drops me off in the morning.. really wanted me to have her number and for me to call her phone..she starts texting later that day and sat. So i ask her if she wants to grab some wine one night and she eagerly replies "sure, let me know when". The problem is im partly lazy, she also mentioned that she was just sitting around already drinking some with her roomie.. i ignore that. Sunday she starts texting again...invites me down to a bar where her and her friends are watching the game..i was beat so i make an excuse...to which she replies "have fun". After that she seems to be less interested and I've asked her about the weekend but now apparently the only shot I have is if she happens to be out with her friends already..which is definitely a change..what would be the best way to put this on the right track? Call her in a couple days and show interest??
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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- Thread starter drf408
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
sharkbeat
Master Don Juan
"Hey, I am going [insert an activity here] this Saturday! Do you want to come?"
I did ask to do something thursday which she couldnt do because of work so i said Saturday she replied "Yeah maybe Sat. All my GFs finished finals so im sure we'll be celebrating downtown". The sad thing is had this girl trying to get to me and now shes stand offish. I think i get in the habit of thinking 1 good time with a girl and you're in, however women obviously don't think that way, takes a little follow up effort. I guarantee if I made a move this past weekend i wouldnt be posting.
This is my biggest problem, this is not to brag at all as I would have to say im generally more dissapointed than not but I fall into women all the time..and usually do fairly well but I usually miss out on more than I succeed with, especially the best ones which is is why I am more unhappy than happy in regards to women. I think i've given her the "shes nothing special vibe" and the idea that she was nothing more than a potential 1 night stand. I want to game her badly..but i need to take control of the situation. Not sure "I should be out with my friends" puts me in a good situation? What should i respond with to that?
This is my biggest problem, this is not to brag at all as I would have to say im generally more dissapointed than not but I fall into women all the time..and usually do fairly well but I usually miss out on more than I succeed with, especially the best ones which is is why I am more unhappy than happy in regards to women. I think i've given her the "shes nothing special vibe" and the idea that she was nothing more than a potential 1 night stand. I want to game her badly..but i need to take control of the situation. Not sure "I should be out with my friends" puts me in a good situation? What should i respond with to that?
sharkbeat
Master Don Juan
Of course it is, but you shouldn't be going out with them (all girls with just you alone is just weird, unless you know all her friends). You should rather "bump" into them. "My buddies and I are going downtown too, I'll see you there!" or whatever
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
sharkbeat
Master Don Juan
Step backwards? That's what wings are for. To entertain her friends, while you making the move to the chick you like.drf408 said:
I am going to actively work on kicking the passiveness, only way I'm going to be happy. I'm just kicking myself with this one..i was already in there and couldve probably hooked up over the weekend..now its in her court and my chances are lower, i will have to work it for sure..but I'll try 
Dannyrt34
Master Don Juan
lol, for some reason I thought this part was kind of funny.drf408 said:
I wish it was funny But i shoot myself in the foot..it's not looking good on this front or the other 1 I had going. I am great at getting these opportunities which for most is the hardest part, but for me I blow them before I can make good.
But i shoot myself in the foot..it's not looking good on this front or the other 1 I had going. I am great at getting these opportunities which for most is the hardest part, but for me I blow them before I can make good.