"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Contacts me after a month?

whichonespink

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I work at a bar so occasionally I have girls approach me. About a month ago a really hot one comes up and is all over me all night. She gives me her number and makes me promise to call, and after a few days I do. She says she'll call me back later to make plans for the weekend, well she never calls. So I pretty much dismiss her. I mean it bothered me of course, she is hot, but I stopped stressing over it and just pretty much wrote her out of my life.

The other day I get a text from her saying "hey stranger" as if I'm the one who blew her off haha. I wasn't going to respond but I figured, why the fvck not...So i texted her the next day:

Me: Hey whats up
Her: nothin much u?...sorry i never called you back ive been super busy.
Me: no prob...i was at work last nite (my reason for not txting her right back)
Me: do you even rememebr txing me last night? (i figured she was just drunk)
Her: Of course
Me: haha alright. we'll let me know when u guys are in town again maybe i'll let you in for free : )
Her: we're comin tonight and sat!
Me: Ahh! so thats what you want me for!
Her: no....lol...we dont know what we're doin yet.
Me: alright we'll im not workin 2night but if ur around give me a call.
Her: okey dokey.

She didnt call me that night nor Sat. I was just wondering why she would even contact me after such a long hiatus. She appologized for her actions even though i didnt bring it up that she went a month without returning my call. Is it possible that she has genuine interest in me? I know shes in the guard and was gone for that whole month. Does this seem kinda weird to you guys? Any advice on what to do with this situation?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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whichonespink

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yeah it does come across as that way...i prob shouldnt have brought up that whole letting her in for free thing.
 

Alphamale1821

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Sadly to say your just another guy that she is attempting to use to get what she wants because she's hot. She is so used to she knew that night she first met you"hmmm this guy is a bartender which means extra perks for me, time to flirt and show him fake interest" Time goes on and she's back in town and what do you know she has your number to use you. Lesson learned with hot chicks you have to be a real challenge.
 

whichonespink

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yeah beleive me that ran threw my head too. but when i met her i didnt do a damn thing for her. no free drinks, no free entry, nothing to even give the impression that i would do sh*t for her. I just thought it was an interesting situation never happend to me before and wanted u guys' take on it...im going out with a diff. girl tomorrow so its no big deal.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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