"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Contacting Ol' Friends From The Past

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Anyone here every contact ol' friends from your past like maybe business, neighorhood or school friends after years not talking or seeing them? If so, how did it go did they respond in kind or surprised to hear from you or was it cold and no response on emails or left messages on phone?

I am thinking about contacting an ol' friend I haven't seen or talked to in over 20 years I have all his contact information and I wonder if it would even be worth it.

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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I personally haven't done this, but I helped my grandmother track down old friends and the response was great the few times that's happened.

Go for it. You don't really have much to lose
 

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Thanks mpimpin, I might do it it can't hurt.

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I personally haven't done this, but I helped my grandmother track down old friends and the response was great the few times that's happened.

Go for it. You don't really have much to lose
 

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LS,

I just had an old friend contact me today after about 5 years. Oddly enough I was just wondering about him yesterday. Turned out to be a good response.

Good luck with your situation
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Thanks for the encouragment men.

I have sent him a email he lives in another state... I am wondering how he is going to react after all these years.

I'll keep you informed..

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That's pretty neat mpimpin... usually when your thinking about someone thats when they out of the blue pop up maybe my ol' friend is having those passing thoughts about me... though 20 plus years is a long long time a lot of water has gone under the bridge you just never know.

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LS,

I just had an old friend contact me today after about 5 years. Oddly enough I was just wondering about him yesterday. Turned out to be a good response.

Good luck with your situation
 

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Well you were right my ol' buddy was surprised to hear from me and the irony of it was just two weeks ago another ol' friend of mine was in town there where he lives and was asking about me but that friend lives in California. I will get his contact info and see whats up with him too.

It must be in the air or something as we all were thinking about each other thats freaky but everything was cool and positive.

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Glad to hear it turned out pretty good.
 

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i thought about adding friends from towns i used to live at but it just reeks to living in the past to me. Life takes you in new directions for a reason, new people, new friends, can't live in the past.

of course if youve had a truly close best friend i can understand but for everyone else i rather live in the present.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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