"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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so after more than 2 years i have ignored her(no contact)
but the sex was crazy, seriously havent met a bish that would do the sh!ttt shes done from licking azzhole to all kinds of nasty sh!!tttt lol

i know if i contact her i could smash it again

bad idea?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How many threads are there regarding this topic? It's getting old. Quit being desperate.

Jair213 said:
sh!ttt shes done from licking azzhole to all kinds of nasty sh!!tttt lol
You want her putting her skid marked tongue in your mouth? hahaha
 

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yes i understand were everyone is coming from, but damn the sex was amazing its not about being desperate its about the nasty sex that was sick, i use to mouthfvck this slut so good hahahahahahhaha
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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If you can handle your way out of a worst case scenario then sure, go ahead. Lay down a few conditions to yourself saying you'll bail if x or y or z happens. Don't come back here crying if you fvck it up though, you're responsible for your own well-being.
 

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A BPD woman is like a life-support machine that's been hooked up backwards and will suck life out of you. That being said, if and when my long distance BPD ex visits my area with her friends and wants to see me, I'm going to have sex with her without any emotional attachment, and I'm going to hit on her friends in front of her. Of course if I'm in a serious relationship at the time, I might blow her off. I think I'm equipped to handle a BPD FWB at this point.
 

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Jair213 said:
so after more than 2 years i have ignored her(no contact)
but the sex was crazy, seriously havent met a bish that would do the sh!ttt shes done from licking azzhole to all kinds of nasty sh!!tttt lol

i know if i contact her i could smash it again

bad idea?
Man. That's porno stuff, maybe she's into some bukakees too. Sick shlt!

Imagine two or three more sick bish like that in your lap and would drain your jizz dry til blood only comes out from it *pun* hahaha.

A girl Licking my azzhole then sucks my balls like they're macaroons. I luv it!

Damn, she might even drink pee, or eat poop like they're fruitcakes on christmas eve *disgusting*


Care to give her number to me? Just kidding. Me luv her already man! hahaha

Be careful though man, as i'm sure you know, they're fun and deadly as well. Haven't been into one so far.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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RagingBalls said:
Man. That's porno stuff, maybe she's into some bukakees too. Sick shlt!

Imagine two or three more sick bish like that in your lap and would drain your jizz dry til blood only comes out from it *pun* hahaha.

A girl Licking my azzhole then sucks my balls like they're macaroons. I luv it!

Care to give her number to me? Just kidding. Me luv her already man! hahaha
She use too suck me dry all the time bruh lol

Give me your email If your interested in some nudes ;)
 

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Grewd said:
If you can handle your way out of a worst case scenario then sure, go ahead. Lay down a few conditions to yourself saying you'll bail if x or y or z happens. Don't come back here crying if you fvck it up though, you're responsible for your own well-being.
Im fully aware of this, Thanks bro.
 

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Jair213 said:
She use too suck me dry all the time bruh lol

Give me your email If your interested in some nudes ;)

Hey i will man ;) I'll pm you

Dude, i understand you, you crave the shlt she gave you and that's it.

It's like a fvcking coke for your c0ck.

I won't be hypocrite saying i don't crave for that shlt. I do and BPD bishes or hookers etc. are the gateway for that debaucheries.
 

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asa_don said:
funny how everybody on here claims to have a bpd ex.
Honestly, I've come to believe that a BPD ex is a lot of our reasons for being on this site to begin with. It was mine that laid the groundwork for me needing to get outta the beta frame of mind, why not others? Plus, the majority here seem to have encountered one at some point in their lives. I just spoke for everyone else, do correct me if i'm wrong lol
 

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j.619 said:
Honestly, I've come to believe that a BPD ex is a lot of our reasons for being on this site to begin with. It was mine that laid the groundwork for me needing to get outta the beta frame of mind, why not others? Plus, the majority here seem to have encountered one at some point in their lives. I just spoke for everyone else, do correct me if i'm wrong lol
i see too many people claim bpd for the smallest things when it's not even true. some guy will say "yeah she was into to me, gave me great sex, had a great time, but she lost interest quick, so she's a bpd." come on, too many people say that as an excuse.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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asa_don said:
funny how everybody on here claims to have a bpd ex.
Cluster B PDs are present 6-9% of the general population. High promiscuity multiples the chance to meet one. Mine had more sexual partners/paramours while(!) married than moste single women, especially considering her age.
 

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Jair213 said:
i know if i contact her i could smash it again

bad idea?
Is it bad idea for recovered heroin addict to shoot smack into his veins just one more time?
 

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Cluster B PDs are present 6-9% of the general population. High promiscuity multiples the chance to meet one. Mine had more sexual partners/paramours while(!) married than moste single women, especially considering her age.
having more sexual patners does not mean bpd. i see a lot of bpd claims just like that, most of them aren't true. 9% is too high.
 

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asa_don said:
having more sexual patners does not mean bpd. i see a lot of bpd claims just like that, most of them aren't true. 9% is too high.
Promiscuity is a trait, read the DSM-V. The diagnosis requires 5 out of 9 criteria, so it's alone won't qulify for one. I completely agree that we have many false BPD claims, mostly from young members. Those with real encounter will sooner or later end up on support sites like bpdfamily and desperately try to figure out what happened.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2719454/

In addition, while the prevalence of substantial BPD symptomatology was markedly higher in the psychiatric subsample than in the other subsamples, as expected, within all samples the prevalence of these behaviors was approximately double among those with borderline personality symptomatology compared to those without these symptoms. These data support the concept that a substantial minority of patients with borderline personality symptomatology evidence casual sexual behavior as well as promiscuity, thereby supporting the inclusion of this criterion in various assessments for BPD.
1 percent Antisocial
2 percent Histrionic
2-4 percent Borderline
1 percent Narcisstic

Just add these up you got at least 6 percent for Cluster B, and that is on the lower end of the estimates.

The NESARC found that the personality disorders are pervasive in the general population: In 2001- 2002, fully 16.4 million individuals (7.9 percent of all adults) had obsessive-compulsive personality disorder; 9.2 million (4.4 percent) had paranoid personality disorder; 7.6 million (3.6 percent) had antisocial personality disorder; 6.5 million (3.1 percent) had schizoid personality disorder; 4.9 million (2.4 percent) had avoidant personality disorder; 3.8 million (1.8 percent) had histrionic personality disorder; and 1.0 million (0.5 percent) had dependent personality disorder.
 
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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