"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Contact After a Few Months of No Contact

HPUser7

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Background:
I am in college right now (living at home for financial reasons so limited ability to do things at night) and frankly haven't seen many girls on campus I am interested in. On top of that, meeting girls in my normal routine is difficult in my degree (Comp Eng) and my job (lab tech); I could try more but my effort is limited.
Background TL;DR: busy college student

A few months ago I went on a single coffee date with on girl but was too busy to ever schedule something afterwards immediately; when I finally did try, she said she was leaving for out of town for two weeks the next day (factual based on her snapchat stories afterward) but seemed interested in the idea with some attempt to plan something before she left (I was busy, so couldn't do). I told her to let me know when she got back so we could plan something and she never did. Now, three months later, I haven't seen any other girls I am interested in (no, don't have oneitis, just sort of picky and not really into casual sex) and I am wondering if it is even worth my time to contact her. Advice on if I should? And, if I do, should I start with small talk or go right into asking her out again? I don't ever see her in person so this would be over social media, messaging or the phone.
TL;DR: Is it worth contacting a girl I haven't talked to in three months? If so, best strategy?
Thanks in advance
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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