conquering your inner demons

[Serg897]

This post isnt about a specific question or situation, more about something that repeatedly comes up and problably affects us all.

Ive been on this site forever, ever since September of 2001, but since the summer of 2003, I think Ive been highly successfull with women.

In all my experience, I believe I have benefited greatly from this website. No longer am I afraid to approach or talk to girls. No longer am I a chump who treats girls like goddesses. Girls can easily fall for me now, and I can easily get together with them.

However...there is still one thing I feel I have yet to get rid of to achieve that true level of general happyness as opposed to being in a depressed mood all the time. Becuase you know what? Despite what happened last night ( all signs point to this chick obviously adoring me ), I cant help what my mind thinks all the time.

I THINK ABOUT GIRLS ALL THE TIME. In particular, the girl I am dating at that time. I wake up the next morning, and all I can think about is her, what happened, how it could have been better, what to do next, and what I can do to keep it going well. All this gets me infatuated with the girl, and I get in a somewhat depressed mood. I think about this stuff DAY AND NIGHT. From the moment I wake, to the moment I fall asleep.

The obvious solution is to do other things, try to get your mind off the girl and what is happening with her, but it persists. I cant stop it, and it drives me mad sometimes.

I want to know if any of you reading this go through this same sort of thing. Can anyone say anything on how to deal with this?

 

[UltimateScoundrel]

We can all control our thoughts and state of being, if you pretend to be non-desperate or whatever, you will become as such. Fake it until it becomes natural baby.

 

[WhAcKeD!]

Ya, we all go through the same thing until we learn from the first occurence. Fact is man, you want this girl, but you dont need her. I had your same problem for almost a freakin year now. A YEAR, of being totally miserable. There was nothing I could do to stop the way I was feeling. So how did I deal with it? I said FVCK YOU, picked up my life and moved on. No girl is worth the possible shyt they put you through. If she is making you miserable, then fvck her, next her ass and move on. You dont need to deal with that shyt, theres plenty more out there.

 

[Julius_Caesar]

We can all control our thoughts and state of being

he is right, you know. Read "The Power of Now"

 

[whatwouldsatando?]

Its normal to be thinking about girls all the time. But, if you couldn't be generally happy about things other than girls, thats just a sign you need to develop the other areas of your life, to balance things out.

 

[RaMar]

I have the same problem though not quite as severe. After I got home from a date last night I go in bed at 10 and it took me 5 hours to fall asleep because I couldn't stop thinking about her.

 

[THA REALNESS]

Worry when you start thinking about men.

 

[DARKPOWER]

It all goes to show............ be careful what you wish for.

You wanted these powers and now that you have them you can't deal with them. Been there, done that. Here's how to overcome.

You've heard the saying............ If you can't beat them join them

Well..................... Deal with it. It's up to you to find a way to make this process more enjoyable.

On a brighter note......... Congrats on your conversion. Know that you're on top it doesn't get easier, it gets harder. But, I have complete faith in your potential.

 

[DARKPOWER]

It all goes to show............ be careful what you wish for.

You wanted these powers and now that you have them you can't deal with them. Been there, done that. Here's how to overcome.

You've heard the saying............ If you can't beat them join them

Well..................... Deal with it. It's up to you to find a way to make this process more enjoyable.

On a brighter note......... Congrats on your conversion. Know that you're on top it doesn't get easier, it gets harder. But, I have complete faith in your potential.

 

[DARKPOWER]

It all goes to show............ be careful what you wish for.

You wanted these powers and now that you have them you can't deal with them. Been there, done that. Here's how to overcome.

You've heard the saying............ If you can't beat them join them

Well..................... Deal with it. It's up to you to find a way to make this process more enjoyable.

On a brighter note......... Congrats on your conversion. Know that you're on top it doesn't get easier, it gets harder. But, I have complete faith in your potential.

 

[CribMaster345]

i've been thinking about this girl i really like for a couple months now, from the time i get up in the morning until the time i go to bed, & then i dream about her. i don't think i'll ever stop thinking about her. i need to stop being a ***** & talk to her. anyway, i'm on the same page as you man ..i guess it's normal.