"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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conquering your inner demons

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Serg897

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This post isnt about a specific question or situation, more about something that repeatedly comes up and problably affects us all.

Ive been on this site forever, ever since September of 2001, but since the summer of 2003, I think Ive been highly successfull with women.

In all my experience, I believe I have benefited greatly from this website. No longer am I afraid to approach or talk to girls. No longer am I a chump who treats girls like goddesses. Girls can easily fall for me now, and I can easily get together with them.

However...there is still one thing I feel I have yet to get rid of to achieve that true level of general happyness as opposed to being in a depressed mood all the time. Becuase you know what? Despite what happened last night ( all signs point to this chick obviously adoring me ), I cant help what my mind thinks all the time.

I THINK ABOUT GIRLS ALL THE TIME. In particular, the girl I am dating at that time. I wake up the next morning, and all I can think about is her, what happened, how it could have been better, what to do next, and what I can do to keep it going well. All this gets me infatuated with the girl, and I get in a somewhat depressed mood. I think about this stuff DAY AND NIGHT. From the moment I wake, to the moment I fall asleep.

The obvious solution is to do other things, try to get your mind off the girl and what is happening with her, but it persists. I cant stop it, and it drives me mad sometimes.

I want to know if any of you reading this go through this same sort of thing. Can anyone say anything on how to deal with this?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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We can all control our thoughts and state of being, if you pretend to be non-desperate or whatever, you will become as such. Fake it until it becomes natural baby.
 
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Ya, we all go through the same thing until we learn from the first occurence. Fact is man, you want this girl, but you dont need her. I had your same problem for almost a freakin year now. A YEAR, of being totally miserable. There was nothing I could do to stop the way I was feeling. So how did I deal with it? I said FVCK YOU, picked up my life and moved on. No girl is worth the possible shyt they put you through. If she is making you miserable, then fvck her, next her ass and move on. You dont need to deal with that shyt, theres plenty more out there.
 
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Its normal to be thinking about girls all the time. But, if you couldn't be generally happy about things other than girls, thats just a sign you need to develop the other areas of your life, to balance things out.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I have the same problem though not quite as severe. After I got home from a date last night I go in bed at 10 and it took me 5 hours to fall asleep because I couldn't stop thinking about her.
 
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Worry when you start thinking about men.
 
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It all goes to show............ be careful what you wish for.

You wanted these powers and now that you have them you can't deal with them. Been there, done that. Here's how to overcome.

You've heard the saying............ If you can't beat them join them

Well..................... Deal with it. It's up to you to find a way to make this process more enjoyable.

On a brighter note......... Congrats on your conversion. Know that you're on top it doesn't get easier, it gets harder. But, I have complete faith in your potential.
 
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It all goes to show............ be careful what you wish for.

You wanted these powers and now that you have them you can't deal with them. Been there, done that. Here's how to overcome.

You've heard the saying............ If you can't beat them join them

Well..................... Deal with it. It's up to you to find a way to make this process more enjoyable.

On a brighter note......... Congrats on your conversion. Know that you're on top it doesn't get easier, it gets harder. But, I have complete faith in your potential.
 
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DARKPOWER

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It all goes to show............ be careful what you wish for.

You wanted these powers and now that you have them you can't deal with them. Been there, done that. Here's how to overcome.

You've heard the saying............ If you can't beat them join them

Well..................... Deal with it. It's up to you to find a way to make this process more enjoyable.

On a brighter note......... Congrats on your conversion. Know that you're on top it doesn't get easier, it gets harder. But, I have complete faith in your potential.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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i've been thinking about this girl i really like for a couple months now, from the time i get up in the morning until the time i go to bed, & then i dream about her. i don't think i'll ever stop thinking about her. i need to stop being a ***** & talk to her. anyway, i'm on the same page as you man ..i guess it's normal.
 
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