anonymous12345
Senior Don Juan
I got age, travelled in twenty countries, professional competence corresponding to two MScs (one through education, one self-learned), cultural capital. As Tomassi writes, I’m in that age where I now want what I couldn’t have back then: the girls in age 19-22, say. I’m not turned on simply by looks. I need to mentally connect, there needs to be some kind of flirting, charm to it, too. Or, I need to talk before being turned on, and they need to too.
The problem is that it is hard with the girls in this age for me, and it seems as if they are threatened or feel inferior (I’m guessing) to me. I of course don’t think they should, but we nevertheless have a problem talking and things don’t work out. No, I’m not looking for “intellectual stimulation” or some bs like that lol, but I need some kind of “mutual understanding” or “presence.”
Or maybe that’s not the problem. Maybe I lack social skills, that I don’t dare to connect, take room, dominate with my perspective. Bring them into my world, my definitions. Maybe I should accept that it isn’t immoral to take a role as the "mature", "experienced" guy. Maybe they like it.
On the other hand, I easily say something that throws them off, the rapport disappears quickly. Maybe the problem is this cell phone/social media generation, but they do talk a lot with “their own peers.”
The actor Leonardo DiCaprio knows the solution, he has girlfriends consistently in age 22-25. Maybe he just finds “the right” girls.
This problem has been briefly touched in other threads. How do people deal with or approach this problem?
The problem is that it is hard with the girls in this age for me, and it seems as if they are threatened or feel inferior (I’m guessing) to me. I of course don’t think they should, but we nevertheless have a problem talking and things don’t work out. No, I’m not looking for “intellectual stimulation” or some bs like that lol, but I need some kind of “mutual understanding” or “presence.”
Or maybe that’s not the problem. Maybe I lack social skills, that I don’t dare to connect, take room, dominate with my perspective. Bring them into my world, my definitions. Maybe I should accept that it isn’t immoral to take a role as the "mature", "experienced" guy. Maybe they like it.
On the other hand, I easily say something that throws them off, the rapport disappears quickly. Maybe the problem is this cell phone/social media generation, but they do talk a lot with “their own peers.”
The actor Leonardo DiCaprio knows the solution, he has girlfriends consistently in age 22-25. Maybe he just finds “the right” girls.
This problem has been briefly touched in other threads. How do people deal with or approach this problem?