"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Confusing woman

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...Actually, it's just me that's confused. lmao.

I know the pre-answer to it all is just to "make a move and see what happens" Which is true. Basically this attractive girl and I have hung out twice, she came down from up north and we've chilled a couple of times for short durations. Anyway she called me tonight and asked if she could stop by my place. The two times we've hung out she doesn't seem to like to make eye contact (shy, I guess.) And I can tell she's nervous and insecure. Anyway I've played it cool, sort of not showing a lot of initiation for the most part and she called me tonight to see what's up and to ask if she could stop by. I said yeah. She was at some dance show thing, so she just came by briefly. Anyway she said yeah call me if you wanna hang out or whatever.

Anyway I called her back up and invited her back over and to bring a movie. She said she's still at the show, and that she would have to go back home and eat dinner. The last time we hung out briefly, she pulled out the same way, saying she had to go home to eat. The last time though eventually she called me back and came back over, I had friends over at the time though so no isolation.

I know I'm over-analyzing the situation. But my parents, and my mom's boyfriend even, says that when girls constantly mention food, you're suppose to ask them out to dinner. And that they won't sleep with you until you buy them dinner and show them that you value them or whatever. While I'm not claiming it's plausible, the teachings of being alpha, not buying a girl anything prior to getting intimate, has been drilled into my head as a rule for years now. So I don't usually give out or anything, I just try to hook up with the girls.

So I'm not really sure at this point. Most ******* guys don't do anything for the girl until after he seduces her, right? What should I do at this point? Obviously I'll wait until she calls back later and such. I dunno. I know I'm over-analyzing.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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never listen to your mom on dating girls mate, made that mistake myself once ;-)

look when you want to meet up with a girl be doing something already and allow her to tag along if she is in a fun mood. you were askign for too much, and she is thinking if i go over there then he is going to **** me. that can be fine but depends on the frame and situation.

"omg i just saw a man run into the sliding glass door at X I was laughing until i realised that couldve been me :-o are you any good at shopping?"

then

"cool im going shopping this week for X as long as you promise to be a good girl :p tag along, mmm its soo sunny outside today :)"

whatever i just made them up but u get my drift ;-)
 
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