confused

[Paintballguy]

Hey guys, I've been reading DJ for awhile now I just never posted. Anyways to my story:

I started bowling in this league on wednesday nights for fun and money. So the first week I go there, I happen to notice this very attractive blonde girl about my age.

The first week, I just try and flirt with her and I managed to grab her eyes. Throughout the night, I notice her looking my way several times. Anyways, the next week im bowling and on the score sheets it gives birthdays. So I happen to notice her name (i knew her name from the bowling screens) on the birthdays. Later on that night before she leaves, I go up to her and wish her a happy birthday. I didnt think to ask for her number and it didnt really matter too much since I see her every week.

The following week she wasnt there unrelated to me, I guess she just couldnt make it.

So the next week rolls by and she is there again. Again, I notice her looking my way through the duration of the night. So I make the decision to see if she wants to go out. When she walks by, I stopped her and said this, "Can I ask you a question?" she replies by "Sure". Then I go onto say, "Would you like to go out one day?" and she just replies "Well I have a boyfriend". Then I just say ok, see you later.

The confusing part is why does she flirt with me if she has a boyfriend? Do you think there is anyway I still have a chance? I thought for sure I had it in the bag but thats the way it goes I guess.

 

[jiro77]

I don't know why she keeps looking at you, but how much conversation have you actually had with her? If it was just "Happy Birthday!!", I think you need to establish more rapport with a girl first by talking with her before asking her out. If this was all that you had said to her, she might have been a little intimidated and uncomfortable because you are a complete stranger to her. If you don't feel too akward now, I would just act like nothing happened and just try to chat with her.

 

[hyd]

try to be a bit more secure and challenging in your approach

saying this to a girl; "Would you like to go out one day?"

will sound in her ears like; I will wait my entire life for you untill you give me that one day out with you!

prolly sounds bit to needy for that chick, been there myself

make 2/3 mins little chat than ask for phone or email dont say when you will call, or if you will ever call at all

 

[Paintballguy]

It was a spontaneuos thing and I should of thought it out more. It doesnt really matter, I'll just play it off like nothing happens the next time i see her. Then I will go from there.