"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Okay guys, please don't bust my balls over this.

So, I've met a girl online about a month ago. This entire situation is kind of.. immature and I would really just want to set it aside and move on, but I need to know what happened exactly.

I met the girl online a month ago through some friends, we ended up chatting and it went quite well. Got her to give me her number that same night and we started talking more, flirting, goofy C&F talks until we eventually started building rapport.

Quickly after the conversations started heating up and we ended up having phone sex. (Mind she is in Italy, I'm on the other side of the world.) Again, I know that she is nothing special, and no man should cling to ***** a few thousand miles away, but I need to know what happened.

The problem is this:
She REFUSED to send me pictures whatsoever, keep in mind she is extremely shy BUT I have already seen what she looked like, several times. (Facebook and such) This bothered me to no end, trying to persuade her to send me something (in an aloof way) every night. She flat out refused every time, till it got to a point where I was done and I broke it off.

She seems to be harboring hateful and vindictive feelings, because she is trying to make me jealous etc. (in an obvious way) Which is failing horribly.

My question to you, what the hell happened here and why the big deal? Trying to move on, but I'm too confused about all this. Thanks for reading this super tl;dr story.

P.S: I am not talking about naked pictures, just NORMAL pictures of any kind at all.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I wouldn't take her not wanting to send you pictures as personal at this point. More women than not are scared of their naked picture ending up on the Internet. Can't blame them on that one. On the other hand, talk to her a while and maybe when she is more comfortable with you she may change her mind. Good luck.
 

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logicallefty said:
I wouldn't take her not wanting to send you pictures as personal at this point. More women than not are scared of their naked picture ending up on the Internet. Can't blame them on that one. On the other hand, talk to her a while and maybe when she is more comfortable with you she may change her mind. Good luck.
The thing is, I never asked for naked pictures, of any kind at all. Just a normal picture of any kind would have been fine.

So, I should get in contact with her again and just wait it out till she is comfortable enough to share them?
 

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She is an Attention Whoore.

You just got used as her amusement to fill in her life of boredom.

Cut your losses and stop fvcking around with women who mind game you and long distance.

What a waste of time and life energy.

Be well

Exodus
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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MHCha said:
Okay guys, please don't bust my balls over this.

So, I've met a girl online about a month ago. This entire situation is kind of.. immature and I would really just want to set it aside and move on, but I need to know what happened exactly.

I met the girl online a month ago through some friends, we ended up chatting and it went quite well. Got her to give me her number that same night and we started talking more, flirting, goofy C&F talks until we eventually started building rapport.

Quickly after the conversations started heating up and we ended up having phone sex. (Mind she is in Italy, I'm on the other side of the world.) Again, I know that she is nothing special, and no man should cling to ***** a few thousand miles away, but I need to know what happened.

The problem is this:
She REFUSED to send me pictures whatsoever, keep in mind she is extremely shy BUT I have already seen what she looked like, several times. (Facebook and such) This bothered me to no end, trying to persuade her to send me something (in an aloof way) every night. She flat out refused every time, till it got to a point where I was done and I broke it off.

She seems to be harboring hateful and vindictive feelings, because she is trying to make me jealous etc. (in an obvious way) Which is failing horribly.

My question to you, what the hell happened here and why the big deal?
First of all bro she can't be extremely shy if she's having phone sex with you.

Second of all it's not failing horribly because it's caught your attention and you have valued it.

Third if she sends you a picture it means she is serious and cares about a relationship, which she doesn't. A girl who is having phone sex but refuses to send a picture is having fun. :wave:
 

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Got it, thanks guys. I think I understand it now, good thing I am spinning a few plates.
 
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