OK so I am not officially in College yet bit there is a girl that I have been going out with no bf-gf just doing stuff together. Well she is going to a college about 30 min from mine (we are both moving 3hrs from our little town in TN). She tells me she doesn't want a relationship at the time she doesn't want to be tied down in college you know for party reasons. So she tells me she wants me to come over so we watch a few movies and I work on her laptop to get her ready for school. Well the next day I'm texting a girl friend asking her if the other girl is interested in me. Girl 1 texts me and i did not notice and talked about her good and she told me I never made a move and that that ship has sailed. She said she doesn't want to date me right now, I think i'm ok with her for later and we may hang out before we leave. Which come to my question, should I make a move now? She said that if I push her she's just going to push farther away. So if we get alone do I go for it or just give her the time she wants?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
onebigfatcat
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On the contrary sir, she said she doesn't want to date me RIGHT NOW
Easy...tell her it's now or never. If it doesn't work, it doesn't work. In the end who cares....college is insane fun if you do it right.
Easy...tell her it's now or never. If it doesn't work, it doesn't work. In the end who cares....college is insane fun if you do it right.
Igetit!
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Well...I wouldn't go this far with it. I don't think trying to force her into a relationship with you by giving her an ultimatum will "inspire" her to commit to dating you.onebigfatcat said:
You should listen to Captain,he's right. She wouldn't be giving you any excuse if she was into you as much as you think she is.
You can't put a timetable on emotions dude. You said that she said she didn't want to date you "RIGHT NOW". Ok,so when then? In a month? Two months? Her attraction for you is low,dude,that's if she has any at all. Let's say two months. It's August right now. So you think that when the beginning of October rolls around,she's going to come to you and go,"Ok,two months have passed. It's time now. I'm ready to start dating you again."?
Of course not.
She's knows what she's doing. She knows that by telling you she doesn't want to date you right now,that she's risking losing you. You could find somebody else. If she's willing to take that chance,sorry dude.
She's just not that into you.
Another thing: You talk about her laughing when you talk to her. Yeah,so?
That doesn't mean anything.
She can go to a comedy show and laugh all night at the performers on stage. That doesn't means she's attracted to/wants to date the guy on stage telling the jokes.
Yeah,a girl can laugh because she's interested in you,but she can also laugh simply because you said something funny.
These two are NOT the same.
Just be a good soldier and listen to the Captain.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.