OK so I am not officially in College yet bit there is a girl that I have been going out with no bf-gf just doing stuff together. Well she is going to a college about 30 min from mine (we are both moving 3hrs from our little town in TN). She tells me she doesn't want a relationship at the time she doesn't want to be tied down in college you know for party reasons. So she tells me she wants me to come over so we watch a few movies and I work on her laptop to get her ready for school. Well the next day I'm texting a girl friend asking her if the other girl is interested in me. Girl 1 texts me and i did not notice and talked about her good and she told me I never made a move and that that ship has sailed. She said she doesn't want to date me right now, I think i'm ok with her for later and we may hang out before we leave. Which come to my question, should I make a move now? She said that if I push her she's just going to push farther away. So if we get alone do I go for it or just give her the time she wants?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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On the contrary sir, she said she doesn't want to date me RIGHT NOW
Easy...tell her it's now or never. If it doesn't work, it doesn't work. In the end who cares....college is insane fun if you do it right.
Easy...tell her it's now or never. If it doesn't work, it doesn't work. In the end who cares....college is insane fun if you do it right.
Igetit!
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Well...I wouldn't go this far with it. I don't think trying to force her into a relationship with you by giving her an ultimatum will "inspire" her to commit to dating you.onebigfatcat said:
You should listen to Captain,he's right. She wouldn't be giving you any excuse if she was into you as much as you think she is.
You can't put a timetable on emotions dude. You said that she said she didn't want to date you "RIGHT NOW". Ok,so when then? In a month? Two months? Her attraction for you is low,dude,that's if she has any at all. Let's say two months. It's August right now. So you think that when the beginning of October rolls around,she's going to come to you and go,"Ok,two months have passed. It's time now. I'm ready to start dating you again."?
Of course not.
She's knows what she's doing. She knows that by telling you she doesn't want to date you right now,that she's risking losing you. You could find somebody else. If she's willing to take that chance,sorry dude.
She's just not that into you.
Another thing: You talk about her laughing when you talk to her. Yeah,so?
That doesn't mean anything.
She can go to a comedy show and laugh all night at the performers on stage. That doesn't means she's attracted to/wants to date the guy on stage telling the jokes.
Yeah,a girl can laugh because she's interested in you,but she can also laugh simply because you said something funny.
These two are NOT the same.
Just be a good soldier and listen to the Captain.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.