"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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bluemanson

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hi guys. what do you guys think of this.
this chick i work, we decided that we will go out one day in the week.
we will take half day off that day and have lunch and do stuff together.
this is her email i got today

We will have to make it some other time, I want to take the whole day off then. Cos i just confirmed a reservation I made for my parents and I want to be home early as they have to be there at 6 and no one will be there for my sisters.

But I still wanted to do that, so I'm gonna go to Claremont and go to the movies, and stuff like I said :) you're welcome to join me?


do you guys think this is genuine and she wants me to join her.

we havent really gone out together alone before and this is the 1st time
but im not sure if she interested or not :rolleyes:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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slaog

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With the '?' at the end I think she's asking a question rather then being polite. Sometimes people can't make it for genuine reasons so I'd give her the benefit of the doubt. If she makes a habit of changing plans then thats a different story..


I reckon she wants you to go on the date from what you have written. Some more information would be good.


Go and have fun abd don't be wondering if she likes you. Presume (act like) she likes you but don't get your hopes up.
 

Telos

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We will have to make it some other time, I want to take the whole day off then.
I don't know if I'm misinterpreting this, but it sounds to me like she's saying that when she does find the time to see you, she plans to take the entire day off. Which would obviously mean she wants to see you and that her interest level is high. I don't think she's flaking.
 

Dannyrt34

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If she didn't try to reschedule with you, then she's not interested.
Looks to me like she genuinely can't make it on your date, so she's offering for you to do something else with her. Sounds like interest to me.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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