"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Alright, so I like girl. Girl becomes friends with me, but doesn't like me like "that". Girl often leads me on, and uses me to make her feel better about herself. And has basically made me her *****. I'm also good friends with girls best friend, who says that Girl has said "I don't think I could ever like him like "that", but it's nice to have a boy to talk to". Which I find kind of disrespectful. What should I do? I mean, I want to confront her about using me, but would this be the best thing to do?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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FLIRT FLIRT FLIRT. It's evident you haven't been anything more than "friendly" with her. And how do you think she "leads you on"? You have to be playful with her, make it clear to her you guys aren't friends.
 
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And no, don't confront her. Imagine how this would go.

You: I feel you're using me.
Her: (acts innocent) How???
You: (blahblahblahblhah)
Her: Right. (insert lame half-hearted reply here)

Later on...
Her to best friend: My god, do you know how lame he is? He said i'm using him. What a loser.

It makes you look needy and desperate for her attention.
 
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Actually, it was her best friend who mentioned to me in the first place she could be using me.
 
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She's setting you up for disaster. Doesn't matter who told you she was using you. Confronting her is not an option.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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jakeyboy said:
FLIRT FLIRT FLIRT. It's evident you haven't been anything more than "friendly" with her. And how do you think she "leads you on"? You have to be playful with her, make it clear to her you guys aren't friends.
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We do flirt alot. and she starts alot of it. But then she goes and says things like this to her friends?
 
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jakeyboy said:
She's setting you up for disaster. Doesn't matter who told you she was using you. Confronting her is not an option.
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haha alright. Thanks.
Sorry if I'm a bit naive when it comes to these things.
 
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jason41392 said:
We do flirt alot. and she starts alot of it. But then she goes and says things like this to her friends?
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how dya flirt with her?
 
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how dya flirt with her?
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I don't really know. I don't really think about it. Alot of touching (not in creepy ways), playfully. And she seems to always go along with anything I try and usually returns.


I'm not really worried about anymore to be honest. I was having a freak out earlier. But then I realized that her friend was really pissed off at her about some personal matters, and upon the things she told me I freaked and didn't take the circumstances into concideration.

Eh, we'll see how it goes. Any tips you have for future reference are welcome.
 
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move on. stop giving her your time and attention. spend on girls who want to get hot and sweaty with you.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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DO NOT give this girl your time or attention. all your doing is feeding her ego. she doesnt "like you like that."things that could potentially make her "like you like that".........
-her seeing you with other girls
-negging her
-not going out of your way to talk to her
-you demonstrating higher value by improving your life(sports accomplishments,good social life,throwing parties,etc.)
-being unavailable to her
 
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