"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Alright, so I like girl. Girl becomes friends with me, but doesn't like me like "that". Girl often leads me on, and uses me to make her feel better about herself. And has basically made me her *****. I'm also good friends with girls best friend, who says that Girl has said "I don't think I could ever like him like "that", but it's nice to have a boy to talk to". Which I find kind of disrespectful. What should I do? I mean, I want to confront her about using me, but would this be the best thing to do?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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FLIRT FLIRT FLIRT. It's evident you haven't been anything more than "friendly" with her. And how do you think she "leads you on"? You have to be playful with her, make it clear to her you guys aren't friends.
 
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And no, don't confront her. Imagine how this would go.

You: I feel you're using me.
Her: (acts innocent) How???
You: (blahblahblahblhah)
Her: Right. (insert lame half-hearted reply here)

Later on...
Her to best friend: My god, do you know how lame he is? He said i'm using him. What a loser.

It makes you look needy and desperate for her attention.
 
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Actually, it was her best friend who mentioned to me in the first place she could be using me.
 
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She's setting you up for disaster. Doesn't matter who told you she was using you. Confronting her is not an option.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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jakeyboy said:
FLIRT FLIRT FLIRT. It's evident you haven't been anything more than "friendly" with her. And how do you think she "leads you on"? You have to be playful with her, make it clear to her you guys aren't friends.
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We do flirt alot. and she starts alot of it. But then she goes and says things like this to her friends?
 
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jakeyboy said:
She's setting you up for disaster. Doesn't matter who told you she was using you. Confronting her is not an option.
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haha alright. Thanks.
Sorry if I'm a bit naive when it comes to these things.
 
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jason41392 said:
We do flirt alot. and she starts alot of it. But then she goes and says things like this to her friends?
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how dya flirt with her?
 
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jakeyboy said:
how dya flirt with her?
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I don't really know. I don't really think about it. Alot of touching (not in creepy ways), playfully. And she seems to always go along with anything I try and usually returns.


I'm not really worried about anymore to be honest. I was having a freak out earlier. But then I realized that her friend was really pissed off at her about some personal matters, and upon the things she told me I freaked and didn't take the circumstances into concideration.

Eh, we'll see how it goes. Any tips you have for future reference are welcome.
 
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move on. stop giving her your time and attention. spend on girls who want to get hot and sweaty with you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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DO NOT give this girl your time or attention. all your doing is feeding her ego. she doesnt "like you like that."things that could potentially make her "like you like that".........
-her seeing you with other girls
-negging her
-not going out of your way to talk to her
-you demonstrating higher value by improving your life(sports accomplishments,good social life,throwing parties,etc.)
-being unavailable to her
 
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