so i met the girl maybe 3 weeks ago....we hung out once...she went on vacattion for a week after that...then we made plans to chill but she flaked on me...told me she wasnt sure if she was interested because im "quiet" or quiter than most guys. at school i kept talkin to her though, and kino'd a bit...hugs..touchin when talking. and now tonight i asked her to the movies tomorrow and she said yes. after saying 2 days ago that she wasnt sure if she was interested. so wtf is going on here....is she gona flake on me again tomorrow? or did i just get her interested again
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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- Thread starter Bjj_playa
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Plec07
Senior Don Juan
Only one way to tell mate, show up and hope she does aswell. Looks like you may have shown her you aint as quiet as she thinks, or you may have just found a girl who prefers to say yes and flake rather than say no.
Snow Plowman
Master Don Juan
Buying temperature at its finest. The one min its yes, the next min its no. I don't want to write a report about BT because everyone should know about BT by now. Just know girls live in the emotions of the moment. if she says no one min just keep attracting her and then try again.
What she did is typical girl thing, if you don't understand the female psychology then it will be confusing.
What she did is typical girl thing, if you don't understand the female psychology then it will be confusing.
Plec07
Senior Don Juan
I'm not too sure myself but I recon it's to do with how unpradictable a girl can be and always changing their mind, like the temperature.Bjj_playa said:explain "BT"
Thats where my logic leads me anyway.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.