i am seriously at a loss about how to approach this situation; any insights and advice you guys can give will be very gladly appreciated.
met this girl through mutual friends. barely talked much, until a work gathering where we really hit it off. got her number, then proceded to ask her out about a week later. we went out a couple of times, and im thinking my action of asking her out already is explicit enough to let her know im interested. recently i have stopped trying to meet her in person due to one incident where she flaked on me.
we still meet when together as a group with friends. connect well still, make her laugh and everything. but i display hardly any kino when with our friends ( dont want them to make a huge thing out of it ).
very few personal questions exchanged either. what she knows about me is mainly from what people talk about. im kind of known as a player due to several incidents at parties and at work. is that reputation a factor?
another problem is our conflicting religons. she's strongly catholic, but i dont see this as a problem. had exs who were either christian or whatever, and our religios differences never matter. ( i feel that if she likes me enough, she will overlook the religon aspect ).
the MAJOR problem is that she rarely, if ever initiates conversation on AIM/text messages. im not sure if its making a huge thing out of it, but i feel its a strong lack of interest. she never attempts to ask me about my activities or just to chat on AIM. but we can talk very smoothly when in person. i see 2 ways about this:
- she has VERY LOW interest. thus the lack of initiating contact.
- or, she is rather shy and conservative. in addition, my reputation leads her to think that initating contact will make her another one of 'those one-night' girls. BUT i feel that if her interest level is high enough, her attraction to me will include my personality, and it wouldnt be a factor.
rather long post; thank you so much if you manage to read all the way. cheers.
met this girl through mutual friends. barely talked much, until a work gathering where we really hit it off. got her number, then proceded to ask her out about a week later. we went out a couple of times, and im thinking my action of asking her out already is explicit enough to let her know im interested. recently i have stopped trying to meet her in person due to one incident where she flaked on me.
we still meet when together as a group with friends. connect well still, make her laugh and everything. but i display hardly any kino when with our friends ( dont want them to make a huge thing out of it ).
very few personal questions exchanged either. what she knows about me is mainly from what people talk about. im kind of known as a player due to several incidents at parties and at work. is that reputation a factor?
another problem is our conflicting religons. she's strongly catholic, but i dont see this as a problem. had exs who were either christian or whatever, and our religios differences never matter. ( i feel that if she likes me enough, she will overlook the religon aspect ).
the MAJOR problem is that she rarely, if ever initiates conversation on AIM/text messages. im not sure if its making a huge thing out of it, but i feel its a strong lack of interest. she never attempts to ask me about my activities or just to chat on AIM. but we can talk very smoothly when in person. i see 2 ways about this:
- she has VERY LOW interest. thus the lack of initiating contact.
- or, she is rather shy and conservative. in addition, my reputation leads her to think that initating contact will make her another one of 'those one-night' girls. BUT i feel that if her interest level is high enough, her attraction to me will include my personality, and it wouldnt be a factor.
rather long post; thank you so much if you manage to read all the way. cheers.
