Hi there fellow Don Juan brothers,
Ok, so i'm a total nooby at this and just started to learn a few things (since yesterday lol). I have a question regarding the "Next" her decision i read about in the faq's for noobies.
Ok so it is clear to me that if in any case a girl does not show any sort of interest, like i do towords her.... then definitly "Next" her (duhhh). But what about this senario?:
I met a girl on the job, and started talking to her and taking an interest in her. Anyways as my job there was done i exchanged numbers with her ( i gave her my number and blackberry messenger number first and then she gave hers). I called her after 3 days and we had a nice laugh on the phone. After that i saw her a few more times at her workplace.
Ever since then we started texting almost everyday (i initially start the conversation most of the time), and i asked her out. Now the interesting part comes, well at least for me, being a nooby at this and all. She neither said no or yes to my request to go out but instead said this:
"I don't go out much, but my birthday is on (x) day and if i do something i will invite you to come for sure".
Now if im not mistaken, she just counter offered me. Do correct me if im wrong here.
Anyways fast forward, she decided to throw a small get together with her friends and a few co-workers. And she invited me to come just like she said. Now comes the problem tho, we were talking one time (before the party) and i asked her if she was seeing someone and she said yeah i just met this guy not to long ago and now we started dating....... and then she immediatly asks me if something was wrong and i told her that i liked her and that i would like to get to know her better. She didn't freak out or anything and was rather cool and relaxed about the hole thing.....but didn't knew what to say. She told me that she enjoys the friendship that we have and that she likes talking to me allot..... but that she doesn't want to "back stab" the other guy and that id wouldn't be nice to him or me.......which i agree with.
As a guy a who doesn't like to back out of things, i went to her party anyways. I asked her if there were something she would like for her birthday present and bought her the gift, wich wasn't anything expensive or anything......anyways i went to the party and she kinda light up when i gt there and was really happy that i came. Only thing is the other guy was there aswell, only i didn't knew who it was....... till someone made a comment which made me figure it out. Despite this, she was talking and laughing with as she normally does and was constantly walking past me and rubbing my shoulder/arms and ask me if i was having a good time. She even left the other guy standing with some people and sat right next beside me and we ate together.
Even after the party we kept texting and i would call her ocassionally to this day......and i still see her at her work sometimes when i have to go there. After this there were times when we would touch the dating topic and i asked her if i would have had a chance with her i she wasn't seeing the other guy and she said "Yes".
I felt that i should have "NEXT" her a long time ago but somehow just coudn't, i normally "NEXT" people pretty easilly and find another target........but it just didn't go that way this time around.... :S
I have a few of questions, here they are:
1. Is there any sort of interest from this girl ? (seeing that she counter offered me, even having to seeing someone else).
2. Why did she keep texting with me so long even when seeing someone else
3. Seeing that i already kept talking/texting with her for so long, should i just keep doing it or can/should i still NEXT her ?
Just a confused and eager to learn Nooby here...... thats why i posted the story.
-DJNooby-
Ok, so i'm a total nooby at this and just started to learn a few things (since yesterday lol). I have a question regarding the "Next" her decision i read about in the faq's for noobies.
Ok so it is clear to me that if in any case a girl does not show any sort of interest, like i do towords her.... then definitly "Next" her (duhhh). But what about this senario?:
I met a girl on the job, and started talking to her and taking an interest in her. Anyways as my job there was done i exchanged numbers with her ( i gave her my number and blackberry messenger number first and then she gave hers). I called her after 3 days and we had a nice laugh on the phone. After that i saw her a few more times at her workplace.
Ever since then we started texting almost everyday (i initially start the conversation most of the time), and i asked her out. Now the interesting part comes, well at least for me, being a nooby at this and all. She neither said no or yes to my request to go out but instead said this:
"I don't go out much, but my birthday is on (x) day and if i do something i will invite you to come for sure".
Now if im not mistaken, she just counter offered me. Do correct me if im wrong here.
Anyways fast forward, she decided to throw a small get together with her friends and a few co-workers. And she invited me to come just like she said. Now comes the problem tho, we were talking one time (before the party) and i asked her if she was seeing someone and she said yeah i just met this guy not to long ago and now we started dating....... and then she immediatly asks me if something was wrong and i told her that i liked her and that i would like to get to know her better. She didn't freak out or anything and was rather cool and relaxed about the hole thing.....but didn't knew what to say. She told me that she enjoys the friendship that we have and that she likes talking to me allot..... but that she doesn't want to "back stab" the other guy and that id wouldn't be nice to him or me.......which i agree with.
As a guy a who doesn't like to back out of things, i went to her party anyways. I asked her if there were something she would like for her birthday present and bought her the gift, wich wasn't anything expensive or anything......anyways i went to the party and she kinda light up when i gt there and was really happy that i came. Only thing is the other guy was there aswell, only i didn't knew who it was....... till someone made a comment which made me figure it out. Despite this, she was talking and laughing with as she normally does and was constantly walking past me and rubbing my shoulder/arms and ask me if i was having a good time. She even left the other guy standing with some people and sat right next beside me and we ate together.
Even after the party we kept texting and i would call her ocassionally to this day......and i still see her at her work sometimes when i have to go there. After this there were times when we would touch the dating topic and i asked her if i would have had a chance with her i she wasn't seeing the other guy and she said "Yes".
I felt that i should have "NEXT" her a long time ago but somehow just coudn't, i normally "NEXT" people pretty easilly and find another target........but it just didn't go that way this time around.... :S
I have a few of questions, here they are:
1. Is there any sort of interest from this girl ? (seeing that she counter offered me, even having to seeing someone else).
2. Why did she keep texting with me so long even when seeing someone else
3. Seeing that i already kept talking/texting with her for so long, should i just keep doing it or can/should i still NEXT her ?
Just a confused and eager to learn Nooby here...... thats why i posted the story.
-DJNooby-
